Hello Horny Readers!  Lately I’ve had a couple of sessions that didn’t go the way I or the caller seeking Femdom phone sex had hoped. I’m dominant, but not without humility, so I know that it’s worth considering whether or not I bear some responsibility for some of the less-than-ideal interactions.  Trust Me, after an unsuccessful pairing I do some soul-searching with regard to what I could have done differently.

That said, I noted a few aspects that each session had in common that I felt were not within My control.  Granted, each potential playmate has the right to seek out what ever kind of Femdom phone sex takes him where he wants to go, but it’s important for him to be sure that he’s chosen the right Mistress to take him there.

Femdom phone sex: Who am I, and who are you?

He should know who She is, and should know who he himself is as well, and make sure those two identities are compatible. Further, just as I respect hard boundaries as communicated to Me by potential playmates, I expect the same consideration to be given to Me.  Believe Me, the last thing I want to have to do is tell someone that the chemistry just isn’t working for Me.

I try to let My boundaries be stretchy even if they can’t be broken, but I thought it might be useful to take this opportunity to remind potential playmates of some trusty tricks and tips to make sure that they’re not wasting their time, or Mine.

Remember the “Femdom” in Femdom phone sex, please!

Those who come to Us with their kinks and fantasies really have an extensive pantheon from which to select a Goddess to worship. There are Ladies with all kinds of different tastes to be found.  Some are willing and able to interact with you as if you are equals, in a standard yin/yang dynamic otherwise known as the Girlfriend Experience.  You might also find a Lady or two who’s willing to switch, allowing you to be in the power position during Femdom phone sex play. But this is something you should definitely find out before you place your call.

I, for one, have no problem having a pleasant and casual conversation with a caller on wide-ranging subjects, during which My tone and demeanor is that of one friend talking to another.  But with regard to fantasy play, I am decidedly the one in control.  Even if I don’t need to shout, and you don’t want to be humiliated or degraded, from start to finish I expect to be spoken to with respect, and even with a subtle deference, if you will.  I am a Femdom, which describes My overall personality.  I’m not just pretending to be one for the purposes of O/ur time together.  I will therefore bring you up short if I don’t like the way you’re talking to Me, but I prefer not to have to do so.  Unless, of course, you gets off on being scolded.  *giggle* But that, too, should be noted in advance if at all possible.

I am in control, but that doesn’t mean you play no role in making sure you get where you want to go.

In My version of Femdom phone sex, even if W/e are playing within a D/s dynamic, it is still an exchange of energies, meaning that it involves both of U/s giving, and both of us taking.  Flow, if you will.

I prefer, for example, that a submissive comes to Me with some idea of what they want to explore, but if they insist that I take them anywhere I want them to go, to lead, I expect them to follow.  Few things are more annoying to Me than to have a potential playmate say that he is a complete submissive, only then to have him relentlessly top from the bottom throughout our session.

Also annoying is the one who basically says “do what you will with Me”, but then becomes impatient when I ask questions in an effort to at least find the trail head for the journey W/e are to undertake together.

Another example is, when someone hasn’t taken the time to apprise Me of any boundaries, and then reacts adversely to a word choice or a suggested activity. Usually I can roll with the punches, but if you do any of the above and are not amenable to improvement from one session to the next, you may find that I suggest you look for a different playmate.

You are purchasing My time, creativity, passion, and expertise, not My soul or integrity.

“A different playmate?  But I’m paying!” you might say.  “Should’t I be able to do what ever I want?”

My dear, I am not a vending machine. Femdom phone sex with Miss Rachel is not as simple as depositing some coins, pressing a button, and having your item or experience of choice dispensed.

We are two real people, and between us there is alchemy going on. Mixed right, you get gold. But that requires the right elements, and the right temperature.  All the money in the world isn’t worth playing with someone I don’t enjoy.

What’s perhaps more important is that since the entertainment you seek does require some outlay for you, wouldn’t you rather spend it on the right fit? We’re playing by phone, yes, but I have no intention of simply “phoning it in” for the money.

What can I do to see to it that my Femdom phone sex session is as close as possible to exactly what I need?

Of course, as a benevolent Mistress, I never scold without direction as to how to improve your behavior, so of course I have suggestions for how to avoid the above, and many other things that can end up derailing a session.

First and foremost, fill out My pre-call questionnaire, and wait for Me to respond to it.  I usually do so within 24 hours, and will remark on places W/e might not mesh, if any, as well as ask follow-up questions.  Together, we’ll get to know each other and see if we’re the right fit.

You can also get in touch with our Help Desk, where our knowledgeable Cock Concierges, Molly and Cassidy, can make some recommendations for you.  They both know all of the Mistresses of LDW well, and can give you some leads. If you’re pressed for time, you can always get in touch with Me via Skype (enchantrixrachel), and unless I’m in another session or not currently available for sessions, I usually respond right away.

It also helps to read Our blogs, since We talk extensively about Our interests on them.  I know Mine should give a pretty good picture of who I am.

Unsuccessful sessions are very few, thankfully, but I’d rather there be none.  I hope this post has helped to outline some of the potential potholes to avoid, because what I want most of all is for you and I to have a smooth and memorable ride together.

xoxo

Miss Rachel, Femdom Phone Sex Goddess

1-800-356-6169