Hello, Horny Readers! You know, men have it tough in the dating game. In spite of advances in gender equality, the burden of initiation still falls largely on them. Men are still the ones expected to approach a woman in whom they’re interested. This means even plausibly fuckable men have to get used to lots of rejection. Cruel rejection at times, yes, but I would think that the sting of sensual humiliation from a gentle letdown can be even more acute.
Is that where it started for you?
It’s a good thing humiliation makes some of you hard. For the fan of sensual humiliation, the dating game must be a breeze!
Sensual humiliation versus cruel humiliation
No matter what activity, identity, or object you can imagine, there is almost always someone it arouses. I’m not surprised that some get sexual satisfaction from pain, but I still find certain forms of erotic pain play intriguing. Take gut-punching, for example (yes, there are some men who like being punched in the stomach). I’m sure it’s related in some way to ballbusting in terms of the satisfaction it brings.
Cruel humiliation is akin to ballbusting for the mind and spirit, meant to crush you. Meant to bring you to your knees. Sensual humiliation is more like a gut punch. It makes you cringe and fold a bit (depending on how weak your literal or figurative guts are), and also offers you the further humiliation of trying to pretend it didn’t hurt so bad as you stumble away to lick your wounds.
The rejection you receive from someone who doesn’t necessarily hate you must feel like that.
Sensual humiliation and the Friend Zone
She’s so nice to you, or at least the fact that she doesn’t beat you away from her with a stick seems so nice. The two of you share lots of interests, and she’s so pretty! Your gut is churning nervously, because you know she’s well above your paygrade. Or maybe the saddest part is that you don’t know. You’d love to go out with her, maybe in your wildest dreams for her to be your girlfriend, to be allowed to with her at least some of the things that populate your slutty imaginings.
You screw up your courage and approach, and she greets you warmly, as always. Then you confess and watch her smile falter momentarily before she recovers, and begins to let you down easy.
Oh yes, she’s nice about it, if condescendingly sweet, but you are nauseous with shame. None of her explanations are direct, but you know what they all amount to–that she would never, in a million years, fuck you.
“I hope we can still be friends,” she says, giving you the same hesitant pat she would an adorable puppy . . . with parvo.
Some of you would experience the above with all the shame intact, concealing a massive hardon at the same time.
Maybe there are other scenarios that come to your mind when you think of your curious reaction to sensual humiliation. I’d love to hear about them, and dispense some Myself in a nice role play! Because just as your shame is tinged with arousal, My compassion is tinged with schadenfreude, and My empathy with sadism!
Sound harrowing? And fun?
You can admit it to Me!
Enjoy this little mix of Miss Rachel letting you down easy. Consider it foreplay to O/ur next sensual humiliation call!
xoxo
Miss Rachel, for both cruel and sensual humiliation fantasies!
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Back when i was dating, rejection was always an issue…I doubt even half the women i asked out said yes…..and of course, there were sooooo many women who were so out of my league, whom i wouldn’t even try to approach. I can’t say i enjoyed that humiliation, but now that i understand my place…..and the unworthiness (despite possessing some charm and wit) that is manifested in a lack of size (itty bitty locked clitty), I realize i never should have been hitting on those woman anyway! ….I have and continue to apologize for those days because I know i would only disappoint them sexually, if they said yes. Sadly,I would try anyway. Never again….it is NOT fair to woman and it is NOT my place……Thank the Goddess, there are femdoms like you and my Mistress that i can serve and adore!……..Oh, and dish out humiliation i can ENJOY! 🙂
“Pussy free Is The Way To Be”, huh princess?
Pussy free for LIFE is the only way for a 2.5 inch clitty
*giggle*
I haven’t been on a date lately because of choice; the choice of several ladies who didn’t want to go out with me. But any lady who has seen me naked gets wet very quickly. Sometimes I just cannot stop them laughing! I once dated a lady from the organ donor clinic, but I dumped her as she only wanted me for my body!
He’s got jokes, ladies and gentlemen!
Honestly, I’m too much of a wimp to have even asked out many women, so I haven’t heard a whole lot of these. Somehow they all still resonated, though. Maybe there’s just an underlying vibe of what I knew the answers would have been.
You’re such an adorable little whore though! I’m sure it’s not your looks. You look like an angel! Maybe it’s because they know you’re a slutty little tart.
So what does “I’m dealing with how I relate to people” translate as.
Is that what a woman said to you? It sounds similar to “it’s not you, it’s me”. lol
Rejection i got pf my share as a man ! When i became a CD BITCH i dished out the rejection on unwelcomed advances. More to follow
I bet you have, Sissy April Nicole!
I too have gone pussy free .I don’t ask out women any more i really just hangout and see what happens.And they knew before hand about my itty bitty clitty cause they had seen me at a nude resort.
Do you hang out “dressed”?
I’ve fallen into the friend category as well. I know sex is out of the question as I’ve acceored this. Most if not all women my age (47) are married/have kids/family. I’ve never had girlfriends as i like to wear women’s clothes/bras/panties/makeup/lipstick/
Dresses/perfumes/women’s lotions/knee high/ankle boots along with leggings/yoga pants. Luckily my masseuse has accepted this and was nonjudgmental and had me try on dresses/measured/fitted me in bra/put makeup/lipstick on me as well use perfumes/women’s lotions on me for all my massages along with holding her purse going shopping with her. She took pictures with her phone and can hit send anytime. With that happening I am her cream puff girl who has to do whatever she wants and asks without question.
The Friend Zone is like being a cuckold almost. You get to meet their girlfriends and if you get friendly with their girlfriends then the girl who put you in THE FRIEND ZONE gets really pissed off at you go figure?
Hmmm, this one requires some thought!
I don’t hang out dressed i am usually tucked LOL
There are a couple of women who are catching my eye lately .I am thinking of getting into the game again with women.I am keeping my crossdressing a secret till i see how it goes. These ladies seem interested in me. They haven’t heard. MY CD. I JUST DONT know WHAT other women have told them about me ? Have a very small dick but i wear new stiff wrangler loose fitting jeans . so it sorta makes Mr Micro soft look larger
You know I’ve read this a few times over the past few months and often thought about the “cute little redhead” that Charlie Brown’d me years ago. Of course she was blond and we were in high school and college together. We were study partners, she shared her boy issues, you could type cast me perfect as the friend zone guy. I really digged her but I was super shy and I felt the vibe (friend zone)so I played it cool for a long time. I did work up the courage to pursue, and was shot down in a sweet, I don’t won’t to lose you as a friend kind of way.. A couple of years later I finally got the opportunity to bed her, and I was excited to finally get my chance to impress her with my sex skillz…. But the years of waiting, wanting, desiring, were too much and I’m afraid I was less than adequate with my delaying of orgasm. The lasting memory, and what she etched on my makeup for the rest of my life was that she corrected, even scolded me with my performance afterwards. I think our closeness allowed her to be honest with me, for my own benefit with future relationships. It was the last time we were together, but the humiliation of being told to “take my time”, has and will stay with me for a lifetime. She created my desires to be submissive and humiliated for being a pre-mature ejaculator. I’m sorry this is so long, Ms.Rachel. I’ve never shared this with anyone..
It may have been long, wessypoo, but it was an engaging and amusing read. I’m sure many of My blog followers can relate! *giggle*
I really don’t know how to figure the dating game any more.All i know is i just live my life going in what ever direction i seem to be going at the time if i see a woman i am interested in i may show some interest in her not making maybe subtle moves in person or maybe but also pay attention to subtle rejection just not in mood for getting feelings or even half hopes trashed