Hello, Horny Readers! I learned something new about My sexual self recently: I love public humiliation, but maybe I love the idea of it more than the reality!
That is, unless it’s carried out with subtlety. I learned this thanks to a recent session I had with a sissy named vikki, a.k.a. Faggot John G..*
In the past, when a potential playmate comes to Me seeking public humiliation, I’ve either:
- planned it so that the humiliation may take place in public, but the tools and techniques of humiliation are only obvious to the playmate and Myself,
- planned it at venues where what ever it is I am having My playmate do is acceptable in that context, though humiliating,
- crafted assignments that, while others will notice if they’re paying attention, will not necessarily be so glaring that the humiliation slave will be a spectacle the moment they step out their front door, or
- decline the session if I feel that I am not able to take the potential playmate where they want to go with regard to subspace.
Keep in mind that this is mostly when a humiliation slave has begged Me to choose the methods and location of their humiliation. I’m a bit more relaxed when the responsibility for what they choose to do and where is all on their own shoulders, and even more relaxed when they simply tell Me about it afterwards, rather than desiring that I aurally accompany them, as vikki did.
When do I decide to decline a public humiliation session?
Well readers, it all comes down to kink ethics and personal boundaries. You’ve probably read before that I’m open to almost anything, as long as it’s safe(er), sane(ish), and consensual. That doesn’t just mean safe, sane, and consensual on your part, but in favor of the people around you.
It can be nuanced, finding out where the line is, but what I usually consider is whether or not you could suffer negative (in an unsexy way) consequences financially, medically/physically, psychologically, or legally. I also don’t believe in forcing others to participate overtly in your sexuality if they haven’t chosen to do so (there’s that consent again).
But as I say, sometimes the line gets blurry. Also, just as I often ask those of you with whom I play to test your boundaries, I also test My own sometimes.
So that’s what I decided to do with vikki!
A wonderful time, but maybe Our last.
I’ll tell you about vikki, and he/r story of public humiliation, in the form of an audio you can listen to below, but conclude the readable portion of this post by telling you how O/ur experience together fits in to the above.
All in all, I think I’ve decided that I’m not probably the best choice for vikki’s more overt excursions, but it was an exhilarating experience to reflect on once W/e got through it!
It wasn’t necessarily anything that vikki wanted which caused such anxiety in Me leading up to the event, but the fact that s/he had never exposed he/rself in quite this way before (which I’ll explain in the audio), and that the cray-cray dial seems turned way up in the world right now, particularly toward visible minorities (or those who could be mistaken for them), and I worried for he/r safety.
I shared this with he/r during aftercare, and although s/he took some big, bold steps that had he/r quaking in he/r (extremely slutty) boots all the way through, s/he really went where s/he wanted to go at My inducement, and didn’t understand My reluctance to be the Mistress to accompany he/r on further legs of this journey. I assured he/r, however, that We probably have other Mistresses who aren’t as skittish as I am!
So this concludes My exploration of the potentially anxiety-producing portion of public humiliation, and now you can enjoy the arousal portion in audio form. Enjoy!
xoxo,
Miss Rachel the Humiliatrix
Such a wonderful article….and yes, as intense as public exposure is it is risky. I have gone for a drive as a sissy….but never left the car….and have purchased lingerie and women’s clothing to the knowing looks of cashiers and sales people. It is my dream to be led at night on a leash while in drag through times square one day (cause anything goes there!) So, i can related to this post a bit! Thanks Ms Rachel!
Thank you, as always, for reading and taking the time to comment, princess! I’m glad you enjoyed the article, and here’s to wishing your Times Square dream comes true!
When you drove around in your car as a sissy, did anyone notice?
I don’t know if anyone noticed…..but you never know 🙂
Rachel,
Thank You for an absolutely exhilarating experience last Saturday night. Clearly, I had my apprehensions about going out to the most public of venues, however I can tell you that Saturday night was the beginning of a great breakthrough for me, to the point that I now have the confidence to go out and be more and more comfortable. In fact, Piper and I had a fun night last night (Wednesday), complete with a trip to Nordstrom and the mall! Thanks again for last Saturday night. It was a truly meaningful experience.
Vicky (Sorry, it appears that I’ve been spelling your sissy name incorrectly)! Thank you for checking in! Do you think I’ve portrayed O/ur time together accurately in the audio? *giggle* I’m so glad you had a good time with Mistress Piper! Do you have a blog of your own where you recount these experiences? I’m sure W/e’d all love to read about exactly what you got up to!
Nice story, wow…it’s like I’m drifting towards that kind of thing?!
Yesterday a friend (ex gf) cut my hair to just about 2 ins. below my shoulders and then braided it in front to keep it off my face and it looked so very fem. Then I went to a party and the girls there (most of whom know that I cross dress) smiled but didn’t say much and what’s this?, neither did the guys who are on my softball team (I guess they probably know too). I suppose next I just have to start wearing dresses to parties.
A few yrs. ago I had a complete make up make over at ULTA and spent the whole rest of the day wandering around the mall and no one even seemed to really notice. Maybe the world sees me as a girl more than I do, oh dear, is that possible?
I mean how far do I have to push it?
I say you push it until there’s no doubt that no one you know thinks of you as a gurl!
The last public humiliation for vanilla was last week, but it is one I am subjected to regularly. vanilla got fully dressed, makeup, nails, undies, sexy clothes, and had to go to an adult sex shop and buy several very naughty magazines that make Hustler look like a kids book. While the clerk was ringing it up vanilla had to tell him s/he was buying them for her master, who reads them while vanilla sucks his cock. This time vanilla got a bored “that’s nice, why did you think I care” sort of bored look. Sometimes vanilla is instructed to let the clerk use hir if desired. Sometimes they respond with desire and action. Not often enough, it’s humiliating if you get no interest, very humiliating.
The only types of public humiliation I’ve experienced were either at the nail salon when I’ve asked the manicurist to put on clear nail polish and they’ve asked if I wanted a color instead in which I blush always (never have told them to put a color on). The other times is when I’ve gone shopping for girly clothes and had the woman at the register tell me that I would look good in what I was buying (of course I blushed then too). I loved each time and curious about experiencing other types.
I do agree that it isn’t right to force it on innocent bystanders who have no interest in humiliating you making them uncomfortable. Plus it’s better when it comes natural rather than forced.
Stephanie!
I tell you, it’s so disconcerting to Me when I find I’ve missed a comment on an ancient blog post! I always worry that readers think they’ve been ignored on purpose!
Well, since this was quite a while ago, tell Me–have you begun to take the estheticians up on adding a bit of color to those nails? *wink*
I loved that humilation on John G so much i went to walmart myself and did it without any makeup on as a guy and i was in such fear and humilation i got hard in the line …I have never had my heart pound so much …I didn’t get a wink or a smile from the guy waiting on me i got a have a great night that all i could do was say i will …. I know he wanted to say more but another lady was behind me in line ….amazing
LOL Did you get the cucumber and the crisco?? lol