Hello, Horny Readers! So, just recently I was thinking about how often I’ve read or heard from a boy that once he cums, his arousal drops to zero. For him, the session, whatever it consists of, is over. I realize that this isn’t true of everyone. Many men have a short refractory period, and once rejuvenated, are more than happy to go again. Also most of those from whom I’ve heard and read of this tendency are not submissive. But as a Femdomme, interested first and foremost in all things that satisfy My need for control, dominance, and obedience, as well as all things that benefit Exalted Womanhood, I couldn’t help but think about chastity training, and the fact that it is uniquely able to address this tendency.
Why does it speak to My Femdomme self, you may ask? Well, this tendency to lose all arousal, and therefore motivation, can affect women whether they are dominant or not. For those who aren’t in a Female-led relationship, it can mean that if she has a selfish lover, or one without the stamina to see her through to her own orgasm, he gets off, and she’s left lying there frustrated. This is actually the context in which I’ve read about the tendency most. Not even willing or able to finger or eat his woman to orgasm, let alone keep fucking her. If he is willing to continue, his performance tends to be more lackadaisical and unfocused. It makes sense, because that’s how he feels after shooting his wad–lackadaisical and unfocused. The spirit may be willing, but the flesh is often weak.
In My capacity as a dominant, I come across this tendency most often with cum eating. Some aspiring cum-eaters openly confess that part of what hinders their compliance when with Me or success when alone, is that once they’ve cum, they lose all interest. Now, there are ways around this reluctance without chastity training, but with it, compliance is so much easier to obtain.
Chastity Training leaves the male in a nearly constant state of arousal.
A chaste male will be almost constantly horny. And when the woman in his life, be she Mistress or wife, holds the keys to his device, he will do anything to please her for as long as it takes to earn release, not to mention with great enthusiasm.
Some women will want to keep the cock locked for a week or so at a time, while she has as many orgasms as she likes during that time period through oral or manual stimulation. She can unlock the cock when she wants to be fucked (or when she’s feeling benevolent). Some women will find that denial renders their man/slave too quick of a shooter, once unlocked, to satisfy their appetite for penetration. If they can get that need met with dildos rather than throbbing flesh and blood, I suppose they could leave him caged indefinitely. But periods of chastity training can also transform formerly one-and-done boyfriends, husbands, and slaves into those who can get it up again, or even never go soft, after the first load.
And with regard to cum-eating? Well of course, there’s the unilateral compliance borne of desperation to earn release that chastity training generally produces. But even setting that aside, a cock-locked slave can still ooze out both pre-cum and sometimes semen while having his prostate milked, and following through however many times a chastity Mistress requires can be used as a condition of eventual release.
This is the flip side of what I’ve often said, that males make the best submissives because when aroused, you can get them to do anything. Add a good chastity cage and training to this mix, and the possibilities are unlimited, because his arousal will be!
Great post Miss Rachel! Chastity really is about focusing on your Mistress. Learning to surrender my selfish needs or wants to the greater good of truly putting my Goddess first. And…. There is nothing like it to enhance ones submission and arousal! While locked I think of nothing but serving my Goddess and how much I ache for Her!!! Chastity may not be for everyone but I think it has made me a MUCH better submissive! It has also Opened my mind up to accepting and trying new things,like being a sissy, and has showed me my true place!
Perfectly put, Cuckie!
Great post Ms Rachel
My Ms keeps me locked with release once per week if I have been a good girl. She maintains that a constantly aroused maid is much more obedient and compliant thsn one who is allowed to cum at will. It has made me a better sissy maid and cemented the idea that the wants of my superior come first, last abs everything and mine are purely at her discretion.
Case in point, right? Thanks for reading, steph!
In general I would love to be locked in chastity. I have abstained from getting off for a full week a few times and that was hard (no pun intended) but I still had control of it being able to jerk off any time I wanted. It has to be completely different when the person has no control of whether they can jerk off. Giving that control to someone else is completely submitting to them. The thought of it gets me hot. ☺️
Yet another Chastity blog! Must me something in the air! I’m in week 5 of lock-down with Ms. Hunter and you are so right about the possibilities being endless Ms. Rachel. When constantly aroused the mind is open to so much more especially at the urging of one’s key holder or Mistress. I’m very lucky in that wifey is also enjoying my period of lock-down so I have two options to be released for some play-time!
Luckily I have been able to perform for wifey and bring her to climax with my cock when released. I’ve found during the initial excitement of release there is a ‘danger zone” as I first reach full mast. You can’t just go hog wild at this point or it will be over in less than a minute. You have to sort of embrace the intensity and just let it radiate throughout your entire body while taking some very deep breaths. Then start slow and work into it. Before you know it you will find a zone in which you are present in the moment with incredible arousal yet able to control it by adjusting the speed and/or depth of your thrust.
It’s really an absolutely amazing state to be in with your sexy lady laying beneath you and enjoying her cock. I’ve found it very fulfilling to be able to perform for my wife yet not go over the edge and remain in this constant and heightened state of arousal for her and Ms. Hunter. If the stimulation does get to be to much then there are also climax control condoms which can be quite effective keeping that cock under control for it’s Mistress!
What a wonderful testimonial, Chastity Pet! Hits on all the points I hoped to highlight, and then some, as what you describe in the second paragraph sounds like a Tantric experience! Kudos to you, your wife, & Miss Hunter for what I know is superlative training!
I’ve yet to do chastity training. But yes with you and the hot mistresses locking me up how can I say no? If all of you involve keeping me as a girl then I’m interested.
All so well said, Ms Rachel! Chastity is the perfect way to keep a man or submissive’s focus where it belongs…on the exalted woman! Keeping him aroused and forcing him to think with the little head is the best way to control him and always get just exactly what you want and need.
So glad You agree, Empress Rayne, though I’m not at all surprised! You have so many chastity boys wrapped around your pretty little finger!
Excellent post on the benefits of chastity. It really is the fetish gift that keeps on giving. You are so right about how many men desperately need chastity training. Leaving your partner unsatisfied simply because you are too tired is simply unacceptable. And I know it does help tremendously with cum eating. I had to laugh when I read how men make the best chastity slaves. What you said is true. And it is also true that women are too smart to let someone lock up their ability to get sexual pleasure. *wink*
Great post Miss Rachel. Chastity does make males more submissive and I also feel that it is more important to please my Mistress. I also feel that when you can’t pleasure a women than you shouldn’t get any pleasure as a male. Would you ever permanently lock a man in chastity? I would call you but I am to afraid to talk to you.
Awwww, tiny tim, I’m harmless! Ask anyone! *smothers diabolical giggle* No, but seriously, My Tumblr title is Iron Hand, Velvet Glove. 😉
Personally, I think you should follow your instincts, and call Me. My brand of control may not be what you think you want, but I’ll bet it’s what you need!
And to answer your question, yes. I would lock a male in permanent chastity, but not right away. We’d slowly stretch out the length of time between draining, until it had been so long since he squirted that he’d forget all about it! That said, only with regular prostate milkings, for My amusement and his prostate health.