Hello Horny Readers! I would say the main group of playmates with whom I interface here at LDW are those who like to stroke. There’s nothing whatsoever wrong with masturbating, at least not in the repressive sense that religions try to push. But like all pleasurable things, that doesn’t mean that it can’t become a problem. When a boy becomes a chronic masturbator, there can be several associated problems. Chastity, even for short periods, can address some of these.
A chronic masturbator is defined in My world similarly to a food addict. Just as it’s normal and even necessary to eat and to enjoy food, it’s normal to enjoy self-pleasure. But when a person doesn’t control the pleasure/nourishment feedback loop, and uses food to substitute for other types of fulfillment, their relationship to sustenance can become disordered. A chronic masturbator conflates action with purpose. The all-consuming need to stroke takes the place in their minds and loins that should by rights belong to the need to please, and to be controlled, by a dominant woman.
For the addicted stroke boy, if he’s honest with himself, it’s not even about true arousal anymore, just as if the food addict is honest with themselves, overeating is not about being hungry. The chronic masturbator sometimes doesn’t even know what his true arousal cycle is, because he’s always aroused, or at least thinks he is. The more he indulges that compulsive need to stroke, the stronger it gets. The stronger it gets, the more extreme lengths he has to go to try to achieve the same level of satisfaction he did during some orgasm in the past. Often, he never will. And when he no longer experiences the true tension and privilege of his stroking, most likely neither will I.
The remedy? Chastity.
Chastity serves three purposes:
- It allows an abused cock a break during which it can recover sensation.
- It forces a break in the psychological hold mindless stroking has on the brain and behavior of a chronic masturbator, and allows the focus to be turned toward their Mistress.
- The throes of withdrawal amuse Mistress.
Okay, that last one was a bit mean-spirited, but only half facetious.
The Difference Between A Chronic Masturbator and An Edging Slave
Inevitably, someone will ask, what’s the difference between long periods of edging, which I Myself
You should be chained to your Mistress, not to your addiction!strongly advocate, and compulsive masturbation? That’s simple: the essence of edging is sensitivity. When you edge for Me, a byproduct may be increased stamina over time, and therefore increased usefulness to any partner you might be in a position to fuck, but the main purpose is to entertain and arouse Me with your desperation.
I’ve been known to turn away a session with a stroke pet who’s already been edging for hours and has called Me to edge him more, because I’m convinced that by now his cock must be practically numb. I routinely suggest that ideally a tease toy will come to Me with three days worth of cum built up in his balls, and I assume that he hasn’t been stroking all day. If he’s already come to Me having broken through the psychological barrier that says he can’t cum just because the urgency is there, I miss some of the pleasure of saying no. I want him fresh, sensitive, and wanting when he comes to Me, so that I can take ultimate pleasure in denying him.
The sensitivity level of a chronic masturbator is similar to the tease toy who has already edged all day, or even worse. What sort of pleasure am I expected to get from a cock that’s so abused that a stroker might not even feel it anymore?
Chastity Returns the Chronic Masturbator to a Teasable, Edge-able State
The chronic masturbator has become enslaved to his addiction, rather than enslaved to Me. When he is cock-locked under My supervision, he begins to turn away from his cock as an object of fixation, and instead fixates on Me as the keeper of access to pleasure. Just as chastity returns the cock to a healthier state, it returns the D/s dynamic to a functional equilibrium.
Now this isn’t to say that there are no chronic masturbators out there whose pleasure in endlessly and compulsively pounding their meat never loses its effect. But there are outliers in every situation, including this one, and in My experience, these simply aren’t the norm.
Are you a chronic masturbator? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below, or in private by E-mail, or by phone.
Until next time!
Chastity is a useful tool for a Mistress in a myriad of ways….Chastity is, i think, essential for a male slave to fully embrace his submission and focus fully on serving his Mistress! Of course, chronic masturbation is out while locked, but chastity can also be used by a Mistress to change ANY type of inappropriate behavior of Her submissive. It isn’t always easy being locked, but the rewards for both Mistress and slave are incredible….I can safely say, nothing makes you yearn to please your Goddess like having Her hold the key to you chastity cage!
Agreed, cuckie!
Not exactly chronic but regular.
However my Ms put a stop to that with a cage and now I edge for her amusement before a denied or ruined organsm after which I am ordered to request she lock me again.
And steph, isn’t the pleasure more acute than when it was when you were just wanking willy-nilly?
It’s hot how you & the mistresses put chronic masterbators in chastity! I’m guilty of being on myself but haven’t done it in long time. If you involve feminization of me I’m interested.
I sense a pink clitty cage and a hitachi wand in your future, petey!
What a great article on chastity, Ms. Rachel! There is one particular point you made that I don’t think many chronic masturbators realise…when you are constantly stroking and playing with your dick, you will eventually lose sensation. You will have to stroke longer and harder, and the resulting orgasm will be less and less enjoyable. Chastity certainly helps that poor cock become sensitive again! The result is well-worth the agony of getting there! Your boys are lucky to have you to guide them 🙂
Thank you, Miss Sierra! You’re right about the loss of sensation!
Honestly, I found masturbation by chance. Was about 12 yrs old at the time. When ever I was home alone I do sneak into the player one tape I had of a seductress that cleans her house wearing French maids uniforms. It wasn’t even porn. One day I just ejaculated hands-free to this to this same video that I had been watching whenever I was home alone. I remember rushing to the bathroom because I thought I was about to pee my pants but it wasn’t feeling like pee. It felt horny. The next I put in the tape again hoping that I will get the same feeling of hands free orgasm. After several minutes I gave up but to cut a long story short something told me to use my hands. And bingo since then I’ve been a chronic.
sissy Minaj! You found your way to My blog!! The sound of the way you discovered masturbation is very telling. I’ll leave it at that for now, but I have some thoughts about it that I’ll share you-know-how. 😉
What a wonderful blog Miss Rachel. Just the though of Mistress controlling all aspects of a submissive’s sexual life is arousing and the thought that it may amuse and please you is the purpose of a submissive’s existence.
You are such a good boy, subthomas! You truly have a slave heart.
I completely agree with you Ms. Rachel! Especially about the pet’s who have been stroking all day. Takes a bit of the fun out of it. Chronic masturbation isn’t good for the pet, the partner, or the Mistress. I hope some addicted strokers read this and pick themselves up a nice cock cage for christmas so you can correct their ailment 😉
Agreed, Miss Nadia!
I am a chronic masturbator and I would like to comment in an E-Mail.
Feel free! *giggle* Rachel@enchantrixempire.com
I am sorry that I missed this response from You, I will have to E-Mail You later.
I am glad that I made You giggle at my predicament.
I’ll look forward to it!
I was a chronic masterbater i used to fuck my pillow and call out the girl i had the hots for at that time.For years i fucked a pillow named Cheryl .Of course she rejected me because i am lacking down there but i didn’t know about it then.It wasn’t till after i started crossdressing that small penis rejection and pussy denial is my fate
I would like to know if You would like to be my chastity mistress.
This isn’t the place to ask that question. Leastwise, I won’t answer it here. lol Feel free to get in touch via E-mail at Rachel@enchantrixempire.com. While you’re at it, you may want to answer My pre-call questionnaire. You can find it at the top of this page, among the tabs. 🙂
I tried to get a Mistress on the BDSM site and failed
I’m sorry to hear that, April Nicole! I see so many on social media that accept pets in the flesh.
I won’t let that get me down i will keep trying.
Can excessive masturbating lead to more feminization? Constantly draing the male fluids from the sack? Cumming without getting an erection? Those pink clitty cages are hot! The Kinky Kitty store near me does not have them.I like the pink ones.
Hmmm. Well, in My opinion, only if the masculine “up-and-down” stroking motion is avoided. Milking the slut spot while bouncing up and down on a dildo, perhaps with the aid of a vibrating wand on the clitoris through the panties or under the chastity device is probably best.
Glad you like the pink clitty cages! I think they’re perfect for the gurls!
A sissy playmate/trainee of Mine just got a pink silicone Bon 4 I recommended, and s/he loves it! S/he says it’s much more comfortable than he/r old one, and yet fits more securely! See here: https://bit.ly/2OmI6J1 In the description, it says “red”, but it sure looks more pink to Me, both in the photo and on My sissy slut!