Hello, Horny Readers! As a general subject here on My blog, the cuckold fetish is nothing new. It seems, however, that there are never-ending facets of it to explore. Add to that the fact that new readers and potential playmates interested in the cuckold fetish seem to find their way to My blog and My phone every week, and I’m constantly finding inspiration to look at it from yet another angle.

Lately, it’s been cuckold cock control.

I bet many of U/s don’t think much about the cuckold’s cock in a cuckold relationship. Once it’s been deemed unworthy of exclusive (or any) access to his wife or girlfriend’s pussy, the focus is on that of the cuckold bull.

It makes sense, I suppose. It’s not always the case, but let’s face it, if most cuckolds didn’t have forgettable cocks, at least some of them wouldn’t be cuckolds!

For the purposes of this post, let’s discuss how the cuckold penis can, or should, be managed. I’ll post a spoiler: in some situations, it need not be managed at all. That sounds exciting, I know, But I wouldn’t have written this post if there weren’t nuances even to the nuances in the cuckold fetish. That said, W/e have to establish parameters somewhere.

So let’s begin by making sure W/e’re all on the same page regarding relevant methods of cock control. Then, W/e’ll present some of the cock control techniques that might come into play in a cuckold dynamic.

What do W/e mean by cock control?

By now most of you are familiar with the basic techniques of cock control: masturbation management, orgasm edging, tease and denial, and chastity.

It’s simple, really. Should the cuckold be allowed to masturbate? When? How often? Monitored by whom, if anyone?

If he is not allowed to masturbate at will, should chastity be employed?

Is he allowed to masturbate, but required to remain pussy free, or does he sometimes get to fuck his wife?

If he is pussy free, does that include hand jobs from his wife?

Each of these questions could be and have been explored in blog posts of their own. W/e will not, therefore, be doing an exhaustive exploration of them here. But for the purposes of this post, they provide a sketch reference to have in mind as W/e continue.

Who decides if a given cuckold needs cock control?

I can hear you now: Goddess, can’t all cocks benefit from cock control?

The answer, of course, is yes. But let’s stay focused on the cuckold cock for now.

The main determinant as to whether or not one cuckold relationship or another should include cock control is the disposition and preference of the wife or girlfriend involved.

There seem to be three attitudes typical of the hotwife or girlfriend in this regard:

  • positive aversion, where she enjoys cuckold humiliation, and mocking the cuckold’s penis but not fucking it
  • indifference, where once she’s got her dance card filled with worthy cocks, she never independently thinks about her cuckold below the waist again
  • fond indulgence, where she may still pay attention to it, and even fuck it, but it will never be the only one, and most certainly not her first choice for sex.

Let’s take a closer look at each of those hotwife postures, and see how, or if, cock control suits the relationship.

Cuckold Fetish: Positive Aversion to Cucky Cock

I know “positive aversion” seems like an oxymoron, but it isn’t. Not quite. Think of it the same way you would the Dungeons and Dragons alignment system. It’s positive, because the cuckold cock is present in the mind of the female half of the cuckold relationship. It receives attention. But the attention is usually humiliating and emasculating. When considered according to access to the pussy or lack thereof, the cuckold cock in this dynamic is denied.

Cock control is obviously appropriate in this expression of the cuckold fetish.

The most probable method? Chastity, of course.

They keyholder would most likely be the Female in the relationship, but it might be even more humiliating if the key, or at least decisions surrounding its deployment, is given to the bull. That, of course, depends on the nature of the bull (follow the link to find out how critical it is to know your cuckold bulls).

I imagine a wife or girlfriend in this dynamic might like to keep the cock caged as punishment for its inferiority, deny or ration masturbation and release, and occasionally remove the device (if one is being used) for comparison to the bull’s cock, various diminutive household items, and exposure to girlfriends.

Tease and denial is necessarily a lesser component as described, but chastity would be the most compatible main method.

Indifference to the Cucky Cock in the Cuckold Fetish

Awww, poor cuckie.

This posture on the part of a free-range female could either be the most liberating for the cuckold, or the most painful. Liberating, because although the cuckold would most likely be denied his wife’s pussy, he could indulge in hand pussy as much as he likes. After all, if she’s indifferent, she won’t care what you do, as long as it’s not between her legs.

She might be the type who will, with enough whining, give a languid handjob with one hand while scrolling her phone with the other. In general, however, she will regard her husband sexually the same way she would a ken doll: inoffensive (or even pleasant) with clothes on, but a sexual non-entity.

That said, cock control of any and all kinds, administered by a Mistress, might be a welcome refuge for the lonely cuckold of an indifferent wife.

Fond Indulgence

Let’s face it, many cuckold couples still love each other very much.

We’ve all enjoyed the tale of the accidental cuckold. We’ve all been titillated when the long-suffering wife of a sexually inadequate husband finds relief in foreign dick. Especially when cucky is the last to know.

But if W/e’re honest, W/e won’t be surprised that most of the time, the cuckold fetish is introduced to the relationship by the male half.

Why? Well, women are more likely to content themselves with sexual circumstances as they are. We tend to be less shallow, and therefore less judgmental of a husband who in no way resembles a porn star. Or, We may have been socialized to judge, but keep Our judgements to Ourselves to protect the male ego.

Add to that the fact that men tend to be perverted sluts, and it’s no surprise that it’s usually cucky who sells his wife on the idea of a bigger, better cock. Oh, he might live to regret it on some level (see the cuckold cocktail), but cucky is usually the culprit.

You got lucky, cucky.

While a woman may be sold on bigger or better dick, therefore, most of the time she was never particularly discontented with the cucky cock in the first place. Hell, there doesn’t even need to be anything particularly wrong with cucky’s cock or performance. But there’s always bigger, and there’s always better. Sometimes even a bit of diversity is the selling point.

I digress; the point is, bull cock is sometimes an addition to the cuckold relationship, not a substitute. In situations like this, cucky usually still gets to fuck his wife. Sometimes he gets to fuck her more than ever; it’s easy to be generous with pussy when you’ve got a surplus of satisfaction.

In this situation, cock control of various kinds can be employed just for fun, but it doesn’t seem like a natural addition to the dynamic.

Sometimes a Cuckold Fetish Feature, Sometimes a Garnish

So there you have it: a synopsis, of sorts, on what can or should or could be done with cucky’s cock in a cuckold relationship. As I mentioned at the beginning, it seems as if each of these options can be expanded upon, and there are contingencies in every one as well.

But no matter how you slice it, cock control is sometimes a natural part of a cuckold relationship. Sometimes it’s just a titillating option.

What do you think of cock control in the context of the cuckold fetish? Are you a cuckold? Do you have cuckold fantasies? What do you imagine the fate of your cock to be?

Feel free to give it some thought, share those thoughts in the comments, or with Me in a session. I’m always willing to give My opinion on what to do with your cock.  *wink*

xoxo

Goddess Rachel, Cuckold Fetish Femdom

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P.S.: Isn’t it nice to see Me around regularly again? I’m sorry it’s been so long. Sometimes writers’ block, complicated by preoccupation with low-grade but long-running ennui can wreak havoc with creative juices! I’m not exactly sure how the dam broke, but it has. Hopefully you’ll be able to expect at least one blog post per week from Me here on My personal blog. I hope to have some fun group blogs coming in the not-so-distant future as well!

Ciao!