Not everyone is suited for a classic cuckold relationship. Â I’m sure there are a lot of happy couples out there with mainstream relationships. Â They’re happy with the frequency and the quality of their sexual activity, and usually the female takes at least somewhat of a submissive role, as per patriarchy and tradition. Â But what I read about and hear about more often are couples where one or the other of them would prefer that the quantity and quality of the sex life they share were different. Â Generally it’s the male who wishes there was more sex, and the female who wishes for chastity. Â In my last post, I talked about my theory (not my concept originally but the one I subscribe to based on what I’ve seen and heard) that much of the time it isn’t a matter of the female half of the relationship not wanting to have sex anymore. Â It’s a matter of her not wanting to have sex with her husband.
Yes, I know, there are other reasons that can be responsible for the decline in the sex drive of so many married women. Â If she’s given birth, her body may have changed in ways that make her feel insecure. Â Childbirth can also change her hormones, and the focus of her mind, turning it to nurturing rather than to being a lover. Â But how long can this be the excuse? Â The conventional wisdom suggests that a man should do more and more and more to help out, to make things easier for his wife, to show her he cares. Â What about the man who has done all this, and years have rolled by where he’s been forced to content himself with indifferent relief once a month (if he’s lucky)?
For many of those men, I submit that the very steps they’ve taken to show their woman that they care have, in effect, compromised their manhood. Â No matter how much effort a woman exerts into domesticating a male once she’s married him, she will always long for the bad boy. Â And once a husband has been domesticated–neutered, one could posit– he can never again fulfill that role. Â He’s allowed himself to be trained and cowed into someone for whom his wife no longer gets wet.
Next: Â Part 3, Wherein Miss Rachel answers those potential cuckolds who say, “But I love my wife!”
and maybe our wives are tired of pretending our tiny weenies make them happy so we become cuckolds
Oh that’s precisely what I was trying to get across, littledkloser! As I say, for varying reasons, it’s not that she doesn’t want to have sex, it’s that she doesn’t want to have sex with YOU. 🙂
Miss Rachel, why do women want a trained and domesticated male if they crave a “bad boy”?
Is it because they are exercising their sexual power to use multiple men for their benefit or is it something else?
I sometimes wonder if my wife is fucking other men behind my back, though it wouldn’t surprise me as all I get from her is a quick handjob once in while. I don’t think I could handle if she brought men home though. Though I think I would eventually accept it, as I’ve learned to accept that our relationship is all about her and what she wants. It’s OK though, I worship the ground she walks anyway.
My goodness! I don’t know why I missed this comment! You sent it so long ago. But according to what you’ve said, you’re used to waiting and being disappointed. *giggle*
To answer your question, I think that some men are born “Beta”, and chosen because of that, and some Beta males are created through persistent nagging and correction by their wives. I think some women get into a sort of nesting mindset. They want romance, they want to get married, they want children, and they want stability. It takes some work to get most men to commit, and then persistent shaping to remain in their wives’ good graces. Once the wife has gotten her husband under her thumb, she realizes that though he may serve a purpose as a mower of lawns and a payer of bills, she no longer sees him as her lover, the hot stud she pursued. She still wants the stability he provides, but seeks an undomesticated Alpha male for her deep-dicking. 🙂
Does that make sense?
Thank you for your response Miss Rachel, what you said makes perfect sense.
And yes I’m used to disapointment, though I’ve learn to just do what my wife wants and not expect anything in return.
I just hope her hitachi magic wand is enough to make up for my inadequacies.
If it isn’t enough, you might have to expand your selflessness even more!