Hello, Horny Readers! The end of Masturbation May is in sight! As you know, We’ve spent the month highlighting all the different ways to stroke (Mistress-controlled preferred of course). Orgasm edging newbies have explored the delicious torment for the first time. Long-time stroke slaves have discovered new devotion. And even though I’ve been engaging in various forms of cock control for a long time now, I’ve had the opportunity to note particular appreciation for certain aspects Myself. As I write, it’s edging and ruined orgasms on My mind.
Not the two separately, though each is a delight on its own, but rather, how well they go together!
I can sense that some of you may be surprised to know that I enjoy it when I ruin your orgasm during an edging session. You probably think that My goal is for you to keep every drop of that cum in your ever-darkening and tightening blue balls.
Well, that’s true. But keep in mind that I understand this sort of submission to Mistress’ desire takes practice. I accept the fact that accidents will happen along the way. But if you have to have an accident, a ruined orgasm is the preferred variety!
In fact, edging and ruined orgasms together have a charm all their own! You could even say I desire just such an “accident”.
Rather than disappoint, edging and ruined orgasms together please Me!
Look, think of it this way. There’s a hierarchy of pleasing outcomes for Me when you edge:
- The gold standard: No orgasm, just edge after edge until your arm gets sore, W/e run out of time, or somehow the stars align and I allow you to explode.
- Not the goal, but deeply titillating: ruined orgasm
- A no-no subject to punishment: full-on stroking load-blow without permission
Now, some of you who read My blog regularly might protest, “but Mistress, didn’t you impose cum eating punishment on a stroke slave who ruined his orgasm during training?
The answer is “yes”, of course, but this was a submissive who was given explicit instructions, as part of a strict orgasm denial program. He a.) did not follow instructions, and b.) had an orgasm.
Yes, a ruined orgasm still counts as an orgasm. Especially when you are under strict orgasm denial.
So you see, context matters!
My Sadistic Streak Plays A Role
I suppose I might not be as gleeful when orgasm edging and ruined orgasms happen in tandem if I didn’t understand how frustrating ruined orgasms can be. Are meant to be.
Have you ever had a ruined orgasm? Maybe you’re not even sure what one is (I’m gratified to say that if My recent sessions are any gauge, new potential playmates are discovering My blog, and Femdom kink in general, every day).
Well, W/e won’t get too expansive, since plenty has been written around the Enchantrix Empire about the subject, and any of the links for that phrase in this post will take you to a more detailed explanation. But basically, when you reach the edge of orgasm, stop stimulation in an effort to stave it off, but fail, and experience a hands-free expulsion of semen, that’s a ruined orgasm.It arouses Me, the way you struggle to hang on.
But what does the fact that I can be a very sadistic Mistress have to do with it?
Well, most stroke boys who experience ruined orgasm will tell you that you end up no less horny and desperate than before, and maybe end up even more so, even though they technically ejaculated. The balls are cramped, awaiting a relieving draining that never came, even though the volume of cum inside of them has decreased.
Rather than relieve the desperation caused by edging, a ruined orgasm will often deepen it.
And nothing makes My pussy so wet as your desperation. It’s as simple as that.
A Caveat to the Edging and Ruined Orgasms “Accident”
I can imagine that some of you might be thinking to yourselves, “Hmmm, great! I might just be able to sneak an orgasm by Mistress Rachel as long as She thinks it was an accident!”
Trust Me, you’re welcome to try. But remember, preceding a ruined orgasm, your hand is completely clear of your cock. Usually several seconds pass hands-free while you will that cum to stay down in your balls before you produce your defeated dribble. That is, if you are indeed submitting in good faith. And I will always defer to My instincts and eagle eye rather than your testimony. I know ruined orgasms, and strokeboys, too well.
Further, My edging instructions prior to that include the expectation that you will eventually tune into your body to the extent that you can feel the point of no return approaching, and offer up My preferred at-the-edge notification “May I Cum?” well in advance of reaching it. So, I suppose if you’re new to Me, I might be lenient despite suspicion. After all, getting to know your body and the sensations that accompany imminent orgasm can take a bit of practice, just like edging overall. But that buys you maybe 3 edging sessions to get away with it.
After that, I will conclude that you are engaging in subterfuge.
And then you’ll find out just how sadistic I can be.
Accidents will happen. Sometimes happy accidents!
Despite the above caution, I believe that the vast majority of My orgasm denial pets and edging slaves want to edge for Me. They want to edge how I tell them to, as many times as I desire. And they want to leave it up to Me as to when or if they get a release. Gooners, of course, crave the edge, and to surf it for as long as they can. They often experience inadvertent squirting as a disappointment to themselves as much as or even more than fearing they’ve failed Me, since whether or not they’ve experienced a full orgasm, the popping of the euphoria bubble might still follow.
But overall, I know that you want to make Me happy. You want to follow instructions, to do what you’re told, to sacrifice the transient satisfaction of a ball-draining squirting for the enduring warm and fuzzy feeling I derive from your submission. So, just know that if you are doing your level best, and you still dribble a bit from time to time even after I’ve told you “no”, understand that I won’t be angry.
In fact, as I hope I’ve explained clearly, I may be even more pleased. *wink*
Have you experienced a ruined orgasm while edging? Did it make you feel even hornier than before? Are you able to continue to edge after a ruined orgasm? Please share in the comments!
And of course, whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned stroker, please feel free to get in touch for a session, during which W/e will put your orgasm edging prowess to the test!
In ecstatic edging and rapacious ruined orgasm,
P.S.: If you’re not on Twitter, you may have missed the sharing of the Dear Mistress Rachel podcast I used to have. This episode is about ruined orgasms, and their relationship to edging in another way.
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Yours is such a perfect approach to training a submissive betas
Like myself. Emphasis on edging and denial with the rare but occasional either, permitted or accidental, ‘hands off’ ruined orgasm.
For me, this approach led to permanent chastity and denial,
With only caged ruins …On those RARE when I am permitted to attempt a ruined, it is now while locked and in chastity.
I say ‘attempt’. Because Achieving a ruined while locked in a chastity cage is NO easy feat, nor is it guaranteed … often I can not do so …Even when allowed.
I will say this …. Given my failures to please ANY woman sexually… I wish ALL of my orgasms had been ruined. …‘
It’s such a humiliating thing…. Instead of finishing with a strong manly orgasm…it is a weak unsatisfactory dribble…such an emasculated feeling! It leaves me as unsatisfied as all the women I’d been with.
This is Exactly what I deserve…. That is When I’m not totally denied an orgasm
Prissy, it has been a delight to watch your transformation over the years! Mistress Constance is truly a Goddess in leaving space for failed males like yourself to discover your true destiny, and now both you and the women who no longer have to be disappointed by your clitoris are both much happier for it! Thanks for reading, and once again, glad I’ve written a post that resonated with you. Good gurl!
Guess who Goddess Rachel? I really must compliment how prolific you are. Scrolling through your blog, weekly, you pen a post, touching on topics that have us desperately craving to “touch on our topics”
Alas, for some of us that may not be an option. Not all of us have access to our “topics”
With good reason.
Now, you CAN teach an old dog new tricks. The Ruined Orgasm…(a definite misnomer in this rookies opinion),is my new go to…or is that “come to”?
It is a fascinating spectacle you cannot take your gaze off as you get off!
Full disclosure, I once did make an unexpected mess on Mistress’s bench, much to her delight and my disappointment, but now with the guidance and tutelage of the wonderful Mistress Erika, this parlour trick or boast of “look ma, no hands”! is the method I hope she allows me when I’ve earned it.
Forgive my forwardness, but Prissy mentioned the challenges of the caged RO.
Yes, true but so satisfying. You feel more of a connect with Mistress offering your tribute this way. The approval of Mistress of course is the climax.
We are just on the edge of edging…don’t quite have a grasp on it yet!
Goddess Rachel…I loved the line “seasoned strokers”! Weren’t we all til we made that call to LDW for “guidance”!🤭
Well hello, little peg! So glad you’re enjoying My blog!
Yes, if you look back just a bit further, you’ll see that not long ago, My blogging was at a standstill, and posts were few and far between. I think I’d sunken into a creative drought that just happened to coincide with the epidemic, and all the attendant foolishness it brought, and all the other unrelated foolishness that seemed to rear its ugly head within the same time frame.
But, since I’ve broken My writer’s block, My goal has been to try to publish once per week. I’m not sure if that’s too often, if people will get sick of Me. But, I figure, they can just take a break from My blog and come back, like binge-watching that Netflix series everyone else was obsessed with the year before.
Also, YOU seem to be enjoying yourself, and I’m very gratified that you take the time!
Ah, Mistress Erika. Ah, Ruined Orgasms. Both are so good for you!
It certainly is a task to keep us amused isn’t it Goddess Rachel. Getting lost in a fascinating blog, gripping our attention keeps us from idly gripping whatever is in our panties to while away the inches…er, I mean HOURS!
Don’t be too hard on yourself, creativity is a gift that you don’t have to play with every day.
I’m sure there were days when Michelangelo said, “Screw it, I’m not going up on that scaffold today. This is a beach day!”
Certainly Alexander Graham Bell more than once told Watson, “Let’s sit on the porch and have a few cold ones” in the hopes of glimpsing a well turned ankle or two.
Let the creativity flow when it does, and chill when it don’t.
“Forced” can be naughty fun….(mmmmm, ) but we will be right here being patient pets, eager to lap up every syllable from Mistress’s latest offerings.
Thanks for the encouragement, little peg! xoxo
Hey hey, I quite enjoyed the heirarchy. Very clever Ms. Rachel- plus it leaves the undisciplined a little wiggle room while also giving them something to works towards!
Hello My Dear! Thanks for taking the time to stop by, read, and comment! I’m glad you approve!
Yes ma’am, yes. I have only recently had my orgasm ruined by two Mistresses.
I expect more.
You are definitely a Mistress who knows she is The Boss, The Ruler, The SUPERIOR in a Female-led Relationship.
I would have no choice but to submit, relinquish and fully surrender to you.
I know my place Miss Rachel.
Thank you SUPERIOR Mistress Rachel. I am really happy to hear the words “Good boy!” from you, ma’am.
I stopped edging since I found out that excessive masturbating causes penis and ball shrinkage. One finger masturbating and cum eating
I don’t know if I believe that, but I suppose you’re welcome to provide a link from a reputable source or peer-reviewed study corroborating what you say.
Even if it does turn out to be true, what does it matter how small YOUR “balls” and “penis” get?
The smaller they get the better they fit in smaller sexy panties 🥰🙂
What a well thought out and well written post, Miss Rachel! You touched MANY buttons with this!
So glad it resonated with you, Jem!