Hello, Horny Readers! I was looking back through My blog post history, and it seems I’ve never addressed the concept of Female Superiority directly. Unbelievable!
I mean, obviously I’ve alluded to it, why some men are particularly susceptible to Femdom, and even why most men are better off under the control of a dominant woman. But I’ve never written specifically about whether or not I believe women are superior to men.
Believe it or not, on its face, My convictions read like those of many mainstream commentators would: Men and women tend to be different. That doesn’t (necessarily) mean one is “better” than the other.
What does “better” mean in this context anyway? Better at what? Better for what?
Lastly, a phrase I see in Femdom environs often is that men are weak, which is why women should have ultimate control over them personally, and in society.
So what do I think about all of that?
Female superiority in the human experience.
A wise person once said to Me, anyone who needs you to make yourself smaller in order for them to feel important isn’t really strong. My presence in the world as a dominant woman isn’t dependent on all men being controlled, humiliated, and dominated. Otherwise, how could I have sustained a loving relationship with an Alpha male for almost a decade?
The problem is, there are too many men in the world who don’t feel the same (see the Red Pill movement). In their minds, their “strength” is all too dependent on who they can control, who they can compel to make themselves smaller in order to ratify their power. It’s often based in the concept that they have the right to control those who are different than they are, because they believe, or manufacture the belief, that those entities are innately inferior. I do blame testosterone in a wry sort of way for many of the ills of the human experience: war, violence, money, possessions over all, etc.
So how are women different?
I believe women, given their ability to incubate and nurture life, and their comparative inability and disinclination to rely on brute force to solve problems, are naturally more communal, and more cunning. Why use a sledgehammer where a scalpel will do?
Sure, a scalpel takes more patience and more subtlety, but causes much less damage to everything around it and achieves the same results.
There are times when overwhelming force and aggression have their uses, so I’m not saying that the nature of men (in general) is inferior to the nature of women (in general). I’m saying that any powerful force can’t be left unchecked. It’s better for all for that power to be harnessed. Some men can recognize and harness it in themselves. Some need help.
Female superiority as part of sex play.
Obviously, bringing a submissive male to his knees turns Me on. Or, to his elbows and knees. Or, to the spa for a sissy makeover . . . you get My point. But it’s not because I consider My submissives, nominal penises that they might have notwithstanding, of lesser value than Myself as human beings. I talked somewhat seriously about the presence of male energy in the world and how it benefits all that it be both harnessed, and perhaps tempered by Female energy, but W/e’re talking a bit more whimsically now.
The very same testosterone that can make male energy a problem, also reveals vulnerabilities that are fun to exploit. Sex play is a microcosm of the harnessing of that energy. The idea of a penis as a joystick by which a man can be controlled is very apt. And just as testosterone is responsible for aggression, it’s also responsible for, typically, a higher sex drive than in women. Women’s vulnerabilities tend to be more emotional. Mens? You guessed it–sexual. Or rather, the dominant vulnerability in one is the way to get to the other.
As an aside, the other day I was contemplating whether or not lots of Female equestrians could be dominants by nature. I mean, there must be some allure to having control over so much power, training and breaking a being to the extent that just the twitch of the reins turns 2,000 pounds of muscle whichever way you want.
I’ll settle for 180. *wink*
So, do I believe in Female Superiority, or not?
As you can see, the answer isn’t straightforward. For the purposes of clarity, I’m going to say, sort of. Not in terms of generalized intrinsic human worth, but in terms of every other way it can be meant? Well yes, I guess I do. I think the world is beginning to see, as more women come into political and social power, and the more that the Victorian, patriarchal, judeo-Christian views of gender and sexual orientation are being challenged and changed in favor of more nurturing, open, and affirming ways of viewing the world, the world is changing for the better.
And obviously, in the dungeon, My bedroom with a submissive, or in the context of Femdom phone sex, it’s the only way to fly.
How about you? I mean, you’re here, so obviously certain Femdom kinks arouse and intrigue you. But in your day to day life, do you believe in Female Superiority?
Tell U/s about it in the comments!
Miss Rachel, (conditional) believer in Female Superiority
P.S.: Listen in below to a short audio on how I differentiate between Female Superiority and Female Supremacy.
Great article…I have always felt Doms and subs are more about the way we are born regardless of being male or female genetically. Having said that….at least for me…I do believe ALL Women are Superior to myself’ and most men as well 🙂 Great post Mistress
Good point about nature versus nurture, princess!
Yes Mistress thankyou for a very well written articile .Intelligent .About Fe.male Dominance .Agree a secure person does not have to have to hurt or put someone down ,to be great someone has to be smaller.Like hate groups …to feel good about themselves have to tear down other people.The Mistress’s of the Enchantrix Empire stand strong ,dominating without the need for subbies to define themselves
Thanks teddy tinkerbell! 😉
Wow this is a great piece. This is about as real a piece as I’ve ever read on the topic. Putting kink aside nothing in life is black or white it’s almost always a shade of gray. I agree with pretty much everything you said.
For me I’ve always found women who are independent, aggressive and intelligent as being attractive. Those women are becoming more common in society today. That’s a good thing. Though there are many “Alpha” Males who are insecure and threatened by these type of women. They’ll have to either adapt or Die.
You know, Stephanie, I’ve often thought about that phrase concerning all of those who are taking their last gasps as supremacists in this world–they’re kicking and screaming because they can’t adapt! They can’t evolve! They’re too arrogant to realize that all of human history and society is evolution. They just thought they’d rule forever!
I love the fetish of female supremacy, but even in a play context I have trouble with it as an absolute. In terms of play, I prefer the idea of a society of dominant women collecting prizes and playthings from a larger, more free (on the surface, at least) society. The idea works with an Amazonian empire collecting tributes, a social club drawing in willing victims and idiots in need of guidance, and plenty of other formats. Also, when it comes to fantasy settings, I’ve always thought one problem with polyandry is that it requires so many men to sustain it. If the Women are drawing on a larger pool of potential subs then that’s feasible, but I still am not a huge fan. One possibility I find more aesthetically appealing is having personal slaves and husbands for the few Women who desire permanent male companionship (I think this might be lower outside a patriarchal context) while those who do not draw from a communal stable/brothel of slaves and whores.
Per your last part, I talked a little about just such a society as a possibility that I’ve explored with a particular sub in O/ur sessions. I like your other ideas, too, in a fantasy context! You’re so clever and creative!
Well, I’m sure You know by now that this is my absolute favorite fetish.
Of course! lol
In terms of real life, I’d like to see female supremacy embraced openly as one of many perfectly normal lifestyles. I once read an erotic scifi comic where there was a section of the city that was designated for open expression of fetishes (there was a street sign with a man on a leash, if I remember right) and I absolutely adore that idea. I think most people are interested to some degree in bdsm, and in this more open world standard dating profiles might include whether a person is interested in dominance or submission and if so how intensely they want to play that out. Really, I’d just like a couple in which the Woman is clearly in control, the man prioritizes Her actual wants and needs over his own (including his fetishes; EVERY sub needs to learn domestic servitude), friends and other people whose lives overlap with their don’t treat either person like a freak, and those people also respect the lifestyle enough to treat him like a servant (“go get us a glass”, “what were Carol’s rules again?”, “Shouldn’t you ask Carol first?”) except if he needs space. Really, if female led relationships were normalized, I kind of think most women would eventually assume a dominant role in society.
Also, even though a perfect world would be totally egalitarian, I do think that in many areas of life it would be best to gently nudge men into more submissive or unassuming roles in order to correct the damage of patriarchy. All men benefit from the current system, and that debt should be repaid.
Wow, this is powerful, pupslave! The city you describe would have to be 18+ I think, so as not to expose those who can’t choose what they see or don’t see, and haven’t had the time to discern what they want to see. But otherwise, yes, I see what you’re saying!
I will add one more time that it’s disgusting how many subs miss the whole point of submission. Every sub should go through a training course on how to shut up, stop being so needy, and prioritize the pleasure of their Mistress.
I know I’m preaching to the choir, but it still can’t be said enough.
Are you sure you’re not a switch, fuckslut?
Well, the idea of a fetish neighborhood is mostly just a fun little idea. When it comes to having female supremacist lifestyles out in the open, there’s no reason they need to be all about leather and chains. At least not out in public.