Hello, Horny Readers!
If you’ve been following along, you’re probably wondering what I’ll have to say about the concepts of “harm” and “sickness” as they relate to long term orgasm denial. I decided these concepts were important to discuss, because they are connected in any hypothetical condemnation of the fetish. After all, one of the ways that someone might decide whether or not any practice is healthful is whether or not it causes harm to the person practicing it, physically or psychologically. Today, I will do my best to tackle physical harm.
Is extended chastity harmful to the body?
Namely, is it harmful to the cock, the balls, the prostate, the skin, or any part of the body for a man to cease ejaculation? The short answer, which shouldn’t surprise you, is no.
If mechanical means are being used to control the capacity for erection, masturbation, and ejaculation, it’s important that you (and your Mistress, if you have one) take the time to find the right chastity device for you. You should:
- take the proper measurements to ensure the best fit
- take your activity level into consideration and if necessary choose a cage that is made to accommodate an active lifestyle
- watch for skin irritation, which is usually a sign of a poor fit or improper hygiene
- make sure that you follow the standard protocols for proper hygiene (basically, keep things clean and dry as much as possible, except for a bit of lube before reconfinement), and
- give yourself time to get used to the device, building up your time in chastity gradually before indefinite confinement begins.
Care does need to be taken, however, of the prostate, making sure to engage in prostate milking no less frequently than every three months, whether you are cock locked or simply relying on desire, willpower, and submission to refrain. This will allow for a dribbling sort of ejaculation, but no orgasm, the same way that a prostate exam at the doctor’s office makes you ejaculate but doesn’t make you cum. Expressing of the seminal fluid which builds up through prostate massage keeps it healthy, and does not disrupt abstinence.
“Well wait a minute”, the skeptic might say, “Isn’t it painful? Doesn’t the male undergoing chastity training experience pain, and isn’t pain an indication that harm is being done?”
No, and no.
Any chastity Mistress worth Her salt will caution Her chastised slave to tap into his body’s natural ability to differentiate between pain and discomfort. Most people have experienced the type of pain that immediately tells them something isn’t right. Stop whatever it is you are doing. It is acute, persistent, and tends to get worse when you don’t tend to it. Pain signifies injury.
Discomfort, on the other hand, is what anyone who has ever pushed their body in any way recognizes as par for the course of getting stronger. Discomfort is something to be pushed through, to be mastered in favor of a greater goal. With time and perseverance, discomfort, while it may never disappear completely, recedes into the background, and doesn’t disrupt in any meaningful way the carrying on of one’s life. Ask any athlete the difference between pain and discomfort, and you will understand.
Next, does extended chastity and orgasm denial cause psychological harm?
I don’t consider myself an expert in long-term chastity, but I’ve worn a cage for what some might consider long-term, but that others might consider as child’s play. The longest stretch I ever did was 78 days, and I did a few that were 50 somethings, and others that were shorter. But all happened over 5 years ago, and I’m only 2 weeks into my current lockdown. However….
My gut feeling on physical damage is that as long as you don’t cut off circulation, or let skin irritation or abrasions get out of hand, your body should be able to adapt to the cage. In my case, I have a CB2000, which probably helps because it is small and light. Because it’s made of plastic, I was able to tinker with the fit by filing down some parts to get a fit that was tailored to me, which means I needed the smallest cuff ring that I could get on. I also needed a gap between rings that was large enough to allow for circulation, while being small enough that I wouldn’t have a testicle pull through the rings during a sudden movement. It took a number of wearings before I settled on the final adjustments. Still, before I wore it for any extended amount of time, I had to wear it in shorter sessions in order to “toughen up” the skin that it was clamping on so that I wouldn’t have major irritation, and also I needed to stretch the sack out so that the cage wasn’t constantly pulling against it. Once you get used to the cage, you hardly know it’s on, until you start getting an erection that is.
I can’t speak to the whole “prostate milking” question because I’ve never been locked for 3 months, so I’ll leave that subject up to the experts. I tend to believe that your body is capable of adapting to anything over time, so I don’t think I’d worry too much about that unless I see some positive proof that it is harmful to the body to not “flush out the pipes” every so often. Your body is constantly refreshing and absorbing dead cells every day anyway.
So I would just say that in my unprofessional opinion, long term chastity is probably not physically harmful, as long as you pay attention to your body’s signals, and take the cage off if you feel any pain that’s excruciating or constant. Short, transitory discomfort like pinching that occurs on movement, or slight irritation is probably not serious as long as you don’t let it get out of hand.
Having a serious Chastity Mistress like I have in Ms Constance, who is truly concerned about the well being of her pet, is a real plus. Part of her daily requirements for me are to do a visual inspection, using a mirror if necessary, to look for any problem areas before they turn into something more serious. I feel totally lucky to have found a Mistress who cares, and I feel like I’m in the best of hands with her.
Thank you for reading, and for taking the time to post such a thorough and thoughtful comment, jemmie! It seems as though you feel I represented your experience well with my post about physical harm, as we both hit pretty much the same points.
Miss Constance is a wonderful Mistress, and I am glad *for* you that it is she who is guiding you on this journey.
I guess we have much the same opinions on the subject, but we’re looking at it from opposite perspectives, you from the perspective of a Mistress, and me from a sub’s, which is a REALLY interesting concept in itself! Ever think of exploring that concept in a post? 🙂
I’m not sure what you mean, jemmie? Explore what the experience is like from the Mistress’ perspective? Taking someone farther than they ever thought possible? Earning their trust while taking control? Coaching them through those times when they must choose to either grow in devotion or throw in the towel? I think that’s a great idea, if that’s what you mean!
You picked the right name for yourself, because you really are a gem!
I must say that the differance between pain and discomfort can be confusing at times.
There are times when your mind will magnify discomfort. An example with myself is
After a time of wearing chastity I begin to feel discomfort in my pelvic area. I rarely get
Discomfort in my balls, possibly due to a vasectomy? I don’t know but the discomfort
In my pelvic area can become quite strong and at that point my brain starts to relate it to
Pain. The discomfort reaches a point of strong discomfort but never really reaches true pain. When the brain focuses on this discomfort it becomes quite concerning and a little scary. When I reach this point, since I am alone in my endeavors, I usually I try to relieve pressure which I believe is my discomfort. If I am unable to succeed at reducing pressure I
Take the cage off and relieve the pressure by masterbating till release. Usually the discomfort goes away immediately.
I look forward to the next entry on the mental aspect, I feel this is more intense than the physical aspect.
Hi Steve! Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and experiences!
Question for you–is prostate milking part of your practice? If not, is there any particular reason why? You don’t have a chastity Mistress, and your practice of chastity, as I understand it, is a very individual, personal thing, so I wouldn’t presume to judge how you choose to carry it out, but I’m curious, and would love to have as many ideological viewpoints as possible as part of my own ever-evolving knowledge base regarding chastity and orgasm denial.
Yes Miss Rachel, those topics you mentioned are great, and taking the Mistress perspective of those topics and comparing it to the sub’s perspective to see how different they might be.
Well jemmie, I was tempted for a moment to do it right after I finish this series, I like your suggestion so much. But maybe I’ll give the topic a rest as I am wont to do after I finish a blog series, and bookmark it for later. I definitely want to write about it!
Thank you for this informative post. I have never engaged in long term chastity — wearing a cage. I have worn won here and there for a couple of days at a time, and even then, I have talked with the mistresses I have been doing it with about all of the things you wrote about — the pros and cons of various devices, signs to look for, how to handle it in daily life, etc. Both with that play and other kinds of play, I have slowly begun to understand the difference between pain and discomfort, and really good mistresses are all over talking me through kinks like anal play or CBT the first time and making sure I am telling them what is going on so they can gauge whether I am in the discomfort zone because it’s new, or pain and we should stop immediately. I have engaged in longer term denial without the cage; there is no real physical pain with that, but I think your next post may speak to the bigger issue for me — the psychology of it.
the cage is something that should be worked out between parties and an open communication it will get intense but you are on the money about physical harm what a great read for all and great insight to anyone thinking about chastity
So glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for the endorsement!