phone sex dominationHello, Horny Readers! This post is meant as a bit of a primer for those who know they are interested in phone sex domination, but aren’t really sure how it works. Give just a little bit of thought to how you’d most like to explore your femdom fantasies with a phone Mistress before you call, and W/e can maximize enjoyment of O/ur time together. I’ve met plenty of playmates who know they have desires, but don’t know how to explore them. Or they think they do, but aren’t prepared to participate in the right way. Hopefully this post will be helpful to others like them, or to those who haven’t even tried yet because they’re not sure what their options are.

Let’s keep it simple to start: The standard ways for you and I to explore your phone sex domination fantasies are role play, storytelling, real-time direction, or conversation.

Phone Sex Domination Using Role Play 

Role play is best for those with vivid imaginations, and the ability to put what they imagine into words. In a role play, you and I become characters in a scene, and W/e speak as those characters would speak. No, W/e aren’t in the same physical space, but W/e will interact as if W/e are, usually breaking out of that format only when an action or atmosphere needs to be described, or to indicate a change in direction.

Some playmates are attached to specific words or phrases, erotically triggered by them. Some have whole stories they’ve fantasized about over and over again on their own that involve a particular sequence of events as well as key phrases.  I encourage these potential playmates to actually write a script and send it to Me in advance so that I can truly inhabit it when the two of U/s play it out together on the phone. It’s not mandatory if this describes you, but it helps.

Caution:  You have to talk, too! *giggle* Part of the reason I’m writing this post is that sometimes when I ask an inexperienced playmate how he’d like to interface with his fantasy on the phone, he’ll say he wants a role play, I’ll start it off, and then there’s just silence on the other end! If you’re not a talker, that’s perfectly fine, but then that means you don’t want roleplay.  Maybe you want storytelling.

Phone Sex Domination Using Storytelling

Storytelling is good for a cock stroker who simply likes to lay back and listen to My voice as I weave a Femdomphone sex domination fantasy. I still benefit from knowing where your general interests lie, or if there are specific things that turn you on, but in general, I’ll do all the talking. It’s a good option for shy boys, or those who find it hard to verbalize when so much circulation is diverted from their big head to the little one, but no matter what the reason may be, I’m pretty good at on-the-spot thinking and verbalizing, and if you like that, storytelling is for you.

Keep in mind though, if you tend to like long sessions (for Me, that means more than 20 minutes or so), it might be better for you to make an appointment with Me or at least give Me some notice.  This gives Me time to fantasize about what’s turning you on Myself, and therefore fill My erotic arsenal with images ready to be brought to life and trickled into your ear. Maybe you’d even prefer having Me make you a custom audio?

Caution:  Storytelling takes concentration, so interrupting Me to completely change direction is fine maybe once, especially if you’re simply not going where you want to go, but more than that and it really takes Me out of the moment. Frankly, that gets aggravating. Also, if there are things you don’t want included, specific turn offs or boundaries you don’t want crossed, give some thought to those before the session, and communicate them at the beginning. Filling out My pre-call questionnaire and sending it to Me in advance can help with that.  The earlier the better.

Phone Sex Domination via Real Time Direction

If you want Me to tell you how to stroke, when or if you are allowed to cum, what to put on as a sissy, how to open your ass, how to spank it, or a combination of the above, you are looking for real-time direction.  You want Me to tell you what to do, and how to do it. Verbal interaction can be part of this play, especially if you need to ask Me whether or not you are allowed to cum, but it’s not essential beyond letting Me know what’s currently turning you on, and how I can exploit it.

That was pretty straight-forward, right?

Caution: Be prepared, especially if you don’t have much time to play. I hate to have you burning through part of a ten minute session rooting around for what may be the very keys to subspace.

  • If you like to use lube when you stroke, have it out and ready for O/ur session.
  • If you want Me to train your ass or your throat pussy, you should probably have something for Me to put in it or something to suck. Fingers for ass training can be enough for some boys, and are actually a good way to start for total ass virgins, but otherwise, no. Also, make sure that what you’ve got is commensurate with your experience level. I think it’s charming when a total ass virgin comes to Me wanting to be fucked with a ten-inch dong, but for all but the sluttiest, hungriest asspussies, that’s a recipe for failure, and/or a trip to the hospital. Some forms of produce can work, but it helps to know what you’ve got in the fridge beforehand, and a condom to smooth out any rough spots on a peel. And no matter what it is you want crammed in your asshole, have lube on hand. Water-based lube is compatible with any toy.
  • If you have clothes you want Me to dress you in, don’t leave them buried in the closet–have them laid out so you can tell Me what they are easily, and I can choose your outfit posthaste.
  • If you’re cruisin’ for a bruisin’, but you don’t have any tools suitable for impact play on hand, you are liable to add to the torment to come as punishment for being unprepared.
  • If you like vibrators, or offer one as a possible tool for O/ur play, make sure the batteries are fresh or its fully charged.
  • If you tell Me anything goes, make sure you mean it.
phone sex domination

I know there are a lot of young ones out there looking to hear that they’re okay in what turns them on, but get in touch when you’re 18. On your very birthday, even!

You get the picture.

Phone Sex Domination via Conversation

I’m putting this under the umbrella of phone sex domination simply because I’m a dominant woman. That said, some submissives just want to talk, not to be dominated, or even engage in any sex play.

They want to talk about the things that turn them on, or experiences they’ve had.  They want to confess to the slutty things they’ve done, or things they want to do. They want to hear more about Me, and share how it makes them feel. They need assurance or advice from a Femdom Mistress who understands. They may be stroking themselves or fucking themselves, or they may not. It may surprise you to know that this form of session is on the table, but it’s actually quite popular.

It makes sense, doesn’t it? A lot of kink is still taboo in the main stream world, and many folks have no one to whom they can even admit their desires. As long as your desires involve things that are safe, sane, and consensual, I’m open to hearing about them.

Caution: I can be very friendly, especially in this context, but I am still a Domme.  Be careful not to assume too much familiarity. I am not your “baby”, your “sweetheart”, your “girl”, your “bitch”, or any other appellation that may signify that I’m no more than some barfly you plopped down next to at the neighborhood watering hole. You can simply call Me Rachel, without the respectful honorific, but don’t confuse My willingness to be casual with tolerance for disrespect. Also, don’t assume I’ll tell you things about Myself just because you want to know. You’re the one who called Me to be an open book, not the other way around.

Capice?

Finally, of course phone sex domination can include combinations of the above. Maybe you want to start out with a conversation, and lace in a bit of direction. Maybe you want storytelling, with the freedom to interject when the mood strikes. Maybe you want to be told what to wear in O/ur fantasy world, but W/e both know that as of yet, you don’t have anything pretty to actually put on. Maybe you thought you wanted to roleplay, but you’re getting so turned on you can’t speak anymore, and just want to hear Me describe what happens next.

That’s all okay too!  The above is meant to be a guide, not a set of rules. All are aimed at making sure that you have the best time possible, and that I have the best time facilitating it.

I hope to hear from you soon!