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Hello Horny Readers!

You know, many of the boys I speak to who are curious about cock come to me claiming to fantasize mostly about transgendered women who still have their penises intact.  This is as opposed to full on, Alpha Male stud cocks like the one attached to my darling boyfriend, who is rubbing his quickly hardening 9.5 inches between my shoulderblades as we speak. The colloquial term for these ladies is “shemale“–certainly less pejorative than “tranny”, but still a term that isn’t free from debate as to whether or not it is appropriate.  Many transgendered women, particularly those who are involved in adult entertainment, seem to have become comfortable with both these terms, either by necessity, or by reclaiming the words as so many other members of marginalized groups have reclaimed terms that have been used to degrade.

I must confess, however, that everytime I hear one of those terms, I have a visceral reaction.  A negative one.  Even in the context of kinky phone sex play.

Because I realize that most men who use those terms when describing their fantasies don’t mean any harm, I generally don’t say anything about it.  Further, knowing that they likely learned the term from the porn they watch mitigates the effect of hearing it.  After all, who am I to tell a woman in whatever stage of her transformation what she should call herself, or be okay with being called?

Just the same, it is a strong part of my convictions outside of phone play to desire to see a society that offers women who are transgendered support and acceptance rather than the “othering”, violence, and condemnation they currently face in huge numbers.  I just don’t think we yet live in a society where  people who are transgender are empowered enough that the use of terms that are still weaponized to ostracise and humiliate them is appropriate for anyone other than themselves.

I know that most boys probably come to my blog to be entertained and titilated, and I love to write about all the kinky, slutty things that make us all tick, but I also know that there are boys out there who think deeply (when the blood flow is diverted from their little head to the big one) and care deeply about the world we live in.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter, if you care to share.

Thanks for reading!