Hello, Horny Readers!

Not everyone who enjoys anal play, including being fucked as part of a strapon fantasy, considers himself submissive.  After all, I’ve written before in this very blog about the fact that any man with a prostate can enjoy anal stimulation, simply because it can feel very, very good.  But I’ve noticed over time that for many of my submissives, being fucked with a strapon puts them in subspace more deeply and rapidly than any other type of play in which we engage.

Perhaps it’s obvious to some, but more than one of those submissives has remarked to Me that he’s not really sure why a carefully-selected silicone dong expertly wielded by a dominant woman has such an effect on him, and one or two of those are among the few who don’t even find strap-on anal sex particularly physically pleasurable.  Well, I think I have some idea.

The world of Female Domination (or FemDom) itself is powerful in part because it turns traditional gender roles on their heads.  Oh I understand that we’ve made great strides (at least in the Western world) toward true equality for women, socially and politically, but old psychology regarding the rightful position of males versus that of females remains ingrained for many, regardless of what enlightened views they may profess.  No matter how advanced we become, we are still animals, and it’s My opinion that the old animal instincts still hold sway.  And nowhere are our more primal natures closer to the surface than in the bedroom.

Because of these primitive, half-buried dynamics, the idea persists, I believe, that only a woman is penetrated, is taken, her very body invaded and entered, how ever pleasurably, by the man’s body.  The same idea, I believe, is responsible for the fact that many people conflate sexual orientation and gender when considering that many gay men enjoy being penetrated by other men in anal sex.  One of the thickest and most deeply-reaching roots of homophobia is misogyny.   The one who gets penetrated is a woman, and it’s shameful for a man to willingly take on that role in a power dynamic, which sex always is on some level.

When a man gives himself over, therefore, to being taken not just by a cock, but by a *woman* with a cock, he is forcing his way through some very psychologically ingrained and ancient societal and biological messages about just what he’s giving up.  And what he’s giving up is power.

Just some food for thought.