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kinkyI don’t mean to be pedantic, horny readers, but I wonder whether or not I have many playmates who actually have a fetish for one thing or another, or if they’re just kinky.  I don’t mean to say “just kinky” as if to have a kink rather than a fetish is boring or less desirable.  After all, I consider Myself to be very kinky, but I don’t have any fetishes to speak of.  I suppose on a casual basis, the distinction doesn’t really need to be made, but knowing where you stand with regard to the things that bring you to seek out a femdom phone sex session can certainly help to make sure you get exactly what you need.

What’s “fetish” and what’s “kinky”?

The simple distinction is that if you have a kink, it’s just something outside of the norm that turns you on, and you really like to involve it in your sexual interactions.  A fetish is something that has to be present, either literally or psychologically, in order for you to get off. I think about this distinction a lot with regard to My feminization pets.  Many of them are married to women who don’t know anything about their feminine side, and they still have healthy sex lives with them that don’t involve it at all.  I call it a healthy sex life if both people are getting as much sex as they desire, and are fulfilled by the sex they have.  Now, surely many of these sissies and crossdressers wish that they could share their kink for feminization with their significant other, but if the need to keep that side of themselves separate were a true fetish, they wouldn’t be able to get off without involving it somehow.

On the other hand, I have a playmate who has a fetish for knee-high socks and nylon panties.  The best of all possible worlds for him would be to wear both, while engaging sexually with a beautiful woman who was also wearing both. He doesn’t need his sex partner to wear them, but he isn’t interested in sex where, and might not be able to function sexually if, he isn’t wearing them.  Or at least one of them.  That, to Me, is a fetish.

A femdom Mistress will try very hard to listen to the needs Her phone playmates have, but if you have a component that needs to be involved in order for you to be sexually satisfied, be sure to make that clear to your Mistress, so that She knows you have a fetish for that certain thing, rather than just a taste for it among others.

So, do you have a fetish, or are you just kinky?  Do you disagree with the distinctions I go by?  Feel free to share in the comments!