I don’t mean to be pedantic, horny readers, but I wonder whether or not I have many playmates who actually have a fetish for one thing or another, or if they’re just kinky. I don’t mean to say “just kinky” as if to have a kink rather than a fetish is boring or less desirable. After all, I consider Myself to be very kinky, but I don’t have any fetishes to speak of. I suppose on a casual basis, the distinction doesn’t really need to be made, but knowing where you stand with regard to the things that bring you to seek out a femdom phone sex session can certainly help to make sure you get exactly what you need.
What’s “fetish” and what’s “kinky”?
The simple distinction is that if you have a kink, it’s just something outside of the norm that turns you on, and you really like to involve it in your sexual interactions. A fetish is something that has to be present, either literally or psychologically, in order for you to get off. I think about this distinction a lot with regard to My feminization pets. Many of them are married to women who don’t know anything about their feminine side, and they still have healthy sex lives with them that don’t involve it at all. I call it a healthy sex life if both people are getting as much sex as they desire, and are fulfilled by the sex they have. Now, surely many of these sissies and crossdressers wish that they could share their kink for feminization with their significant other, but if the need to keep that side of themselves separate were a true fetish, they wouldn’t be able to get off without involving it somehow.
On the other hand, I have a playmate who has a fetish for knee-high socks and nylon panties. The best of all possible worlds for him would be to wear both, while engaging sexually with a beautiful woman who was also wearing both. He doesn’t need his sex partner to wear them, but he isn’t interested in sex where, and might not be able to function sexually if, he isn’t wearing them. Or at least one of them. That, to Me, is a fetish.
A femdom Mistress will try very hard to listen to the needs Her phone playmates have, but if you have a component that needs to be involved in order for you to be sexually satisfied, be sure to make that clear to your Mistress, so that She knows you have a fetish for that certain thing, rather than just a taste for it among others.
So, do you have a fetish, or are you just kinky? Do you disagree with the distinctions I go by? Feel free to share in the comments!
I’m pretty sure I’m just generally kinky. It’s all about power and degradation for me, regardless of how that’s expressed.
And that’s why you’re so versatile as a slave, fuckslut!
I don’t know which this is. For a long time I have gotten triggered by girls talking about well endowed guys. Like since High School it has seemed girls just do. I think it gets me excited to hear girls talk about guys at all but at the same time I feel quiet, timid, shy, small. It is like I want to hear what girls think about (a lot) but I am also internally terrified that the conversation might shift and she might ask me – so how big are you? It is a combination of being totally, totally, fascinated by the female but quite nervous at the same time.
I remember well, jimmy!
Miss Rachel I have many Fetishes and one or two of that can be a Little Kinky!~Sissy Winks!~ 😉
There’s my Fetish for being Dominated & Humiliated by Beautiful Goddesses such as you are Miss Rachel & my Fetish for being all dressed up like the Pretty Little Bimbo Slut and going off to an Adult Book Store to satisfy my Fetish for Orally Serving & Servicing Married Men in the Movie Booths! 🙂
There are many things I have a Fetish for and getting Kinky while doing them is half the fun of it all!~Sissy Winks!~ 😉
Good differentiation, Bimbo!
You know my fetish its damn Nylin Stockings
I don’t think the problem is the fetish, but that you try to resist it! *giggle*
Are you saying I should give into it like How??
I’d be happy to discuss that with you in session. 🙂