Hello, Horny Readers!
Finally, the last installment! I know it’s quite late, but sometimes life gets in the way!
“There’s nothing erotic about permanent orgasm denial“.
Textbook definitions don’t always tell us everything, but they tell us a lot. So, given the above textbook definition, I’ll begin with a question. Where does it say anything about ejaculation?
Okay, yes, I’m being a bit glib. But it’s true, isn’t it?
I saved this portion of the conversation for last, because it seems the easiest to discuss, and I thought it was a good way for us to conclude. We all like to contemplate the erotic in our little kinky community where intelligent phone sex is enjoyed by, in my opinion, a preponderance of intelligent people. And there are so many ways we all experience our zest for eroticism, isn’t there? Many of us carry our fetishes into our daily flesh and blood lives. But whether we are confined to the fantasy time we spend together on the phone, or involve our very own flesh in the things that arouse us, we all engage the most important sex organ of all: the brain. The imagination. The emotions.
Ask yourself then, is it that inconceivable that for some people, sexual and erotic satisfaction need not involve the body at all? That what satisfies both a chastity Mistress and her slave is what occurs in the mind in spite of what is not occurring through the body? Why should the physical act of masturbation and ejaculation or penetrative intercourse be the only acceptable parameters for everyone as to what is sensual or erotic?
Anyone who understands the principles of tantric sex and the allure of power exchange can put the two together to understand the erotic charge that can come from Femdom orgasm denial. Even without the element of D/s play, erotic interaction is an exchange, an exchange of energies, playing back and forth between giving and receiving. One would be hard-pressed to deny the pleasure inherent in both. Extended chastity, then, can be seen as the giving of control and the receiving of submission, and vice versa. We’ve already concluded, I hope, that for some people, there is pleasure inherent in these.
I’d like to thank all of you who have not only hung in there with me through this long series, but contributed to the conversation either in the comments section, or in private, whether my point of view as expressed here resonated with you or not. I hope that among at least one of you there is a reader whose mind has been broadened such that even if he still doesn’t see himself as a candidate for extended orgasm denial, has learned something about the nature of it.
Welcome back Miss Rachel! Missed you and missed your writing! Thanks for posting this concluding post on extended chastity, and it was well worth the wait! Your posts are thoughtful, articulate, and intelligently written. I loved how you described extended chastity as the giving of control and the receiving of submission. That captures it quite nicely, Miss Rachel. I sometimes have a hard time vocalizing what I get out of extended chastity, but it’s real and it’s satisfying to my core. Giving total control of my sex life to a Chastity Mistress may not make sense to a lot of people, but I can tell you that I get LOTS out of it, especially if I know that my Mistress is getting as much or more satisfaction from it than I am.
Thanks for this series! Looking forward to more writing from you whenever you have the time, Miss Rachel!
jemmie, as I published this last blog post, I specifically thought of you! You’ve waited so patiently for the last installment, and I appreciate that! I’m so glad it resonated with you this time as well as the other installments did, and your contributions for further thought are as prescient as ever!
I have to admit – I have not really understood the concept of “chastity” at least not in the complete sense that I had read about it – locking up, etc? That always seemed extreme to me. But I am thinking about “less extreme” kinds of experiences that may be related? Two imparticular where female friends (attractive ones at that) would occasionally dress or undress (change) pretty much right in front of me. As a fairly submissive (shy and timid) kind of guy I had the strong sense that I was not to touch (or really even consider it out loud). Both these females were pretty strong minded and in charge types (though I did not really use the term dominant then). Did not occur frequently but the times it did i thought – wow, they just “change” right in front of me – and I am sort of expected not to react or to keep my reaction to myself. Maybe that is a “type” of chastity?
It sounds more like “cockteasing”, jim, which is actually a fetish. 🙂 I suppose in a way the scenario you describe, and cockteasing in general, could be an aspect of chastity, but in my understanding, chastity is a more purposeful control and denial of orgasm.
Thanks for your comment!
Thank you Miss Rachel! Looking forward to many more of your great posts!