Hello, Horny Readers!

Finally, the last installment!  I know it’s quite late, but sometimes life gets in the way!

“There’s nothing erotic about permanent orgasm denial“.

e·rot·i·cism  [ih-rot-uh-siz-uhm]


1. the sexual or erotic quality or character of something.
2. the use of sexually arousing or suggestive symbolism, settings, allusions, situations, etc., in art,literature, drama, or the like.
3. the condition of being sexually aroused or excited.
4. sexual drive or tendency.
5. an abnormally persistent sexual drive.

Textbook definitions don’t always tell us everything, but they tell us a lot.  So, given the above textbook definition, I’ll begin with a question.  Where does it say anything about ejaculation?

Okay, yes, I’m being a bit glib.  But it’s true, isn’t it?

I saved this portion of the conversation for last, because it seems the easiest to discuss, and I thought it was a good way for us to conclude.  We all like to contemplate the erotic in our little kinky community where intelligent phone sex is enjoyed by, in my opinion, a preponderance of intelligent people.  And there are so many ways we all experience our zest for eroticism, isn’t there?  Many of us carry our fetishes into our daily flesh and blood lives.  But whether we are confined to the fantasy time we spend together on the phone, or involve our very own flesh in the things that arouse us, we all engage the most important sex organ of all:  the brain.  The imagination.  The emotions.

Ask yourself then, is it that inconceivable that for some people, sexual and erotic satisfaction need not involve the body at all?  That what satisfies both a chastity Mistress and her slave is what occurs in the mind in spite of what is not occurring through the body?  Why should the physical act of masturbation and ejaculation or penetrative intercourse be the only acceptable parameters for everyone as to what is sensual or erotic?

Anyone who understands the principles of tantric sex and the allure of power exchange can put the two together to understand the erotic charge that can come from Femdom orgasm denial.  Even without the element of D/s play, erotic interaction is an exchange, an exchange of energies, playing back and forth between giving and receiving.  One would be hard-pressed to deny the pleasure inherent in both.  Extended chastity, then, can be seen as the giving of control and the receiving of submission, and vice versa.  We’ve already concluded, I hope, that for some people, there is pleasure inherent in these.

I’d like to thank all of you who have not only hung in there with me through this long series, but contributed to the conversation either in the comments section, or in private, whether my point of view as expressed here resonated with you or not.  I hope that among at least one of you there is a reader whose mind has been broadened such that even if he still doesn’t see himself as a candidate for extended orgasm denial, has learned something about the nature of it.

Happy stroking!