Hello, Horny Readers! I have been getting such good feedback on My new audio, Neighborhood Cocksucker! Particularly from the real live cocksuckers in My aquaintence! I’ve heard more than once that not only is the audio arousing, but it also really captures well the mindset of the submissive male cocksucker. So much so that one of them, Sissy Slut Samantha to be exact, highly encouraged Me to write a blog post on the subject. Spell it out, so to speak.
Click the image to listen to an audio version of this post in a new tab!
Now, I must admit that when I’m sinking into a creative project like an erotic audio, I rely heavily on intuition. And I suspect W/e all know the language of intuition can be hard to translate. But I decided that it would be an excellent exercise to try!
Let’s see if I can provide a meta description of My inspiration. I know I can describe images, acts, and words that arouse Me. I can share those words pretty much on the fly in a coerced or seduced bi fantasy, during cocksucker training, or in confessional phone sex sessions. But let’s see if I can put into words the mindset and motivations of the dedicated oral servant and cocksucking addict as I see them!
I can’t promise that this blog post will resonate with the submissive male cocksucker as much as My audio seems to, but perhaps those of you who are reading (or listening) can fill in the blanks in the comments section where I fail.
A good place to start: What’s the difference between a submissive male cocksucker and any other cocksucker?
The clues are in the phrase itself!
In case it’s not obvious, those clues are “submissive” and “male”. *giggle*
Let’s start with “submissive”. It requires the least deconstruction. W/e’re already pretty familiar with the term around here.
Think of it this way: slaves, whether predisposed or trained, are motivated solely by obedience.
A submissive, on the other hand, comes to the D/s dynamic with needs and desires. In the case of the submissive male cocksucker, the main desire is to please.
Moreover, he is willing to sacrifice to some degree in order to realize this desire.
Cock sucking sacrifice involves some or all of the following:
- a bit of manhandling (or a lot)
- indifference to how you look or sound while you suck
- assuming the posture or position preferred by the top
- licking, sucking and massaging the balls (or not), chasing their hand up and down the shaft (or not), or even analingus, as the top prefers
- receiving the load according to the preferences of the top
In short, there’s nothing more important to the submissive male cocksucker than what brings their top to the most satisfying orgasm, no matter what they have to do to bring them there.
Let’s face it, W/e all know those who are willing to suck cock, and some who enjoy it, but I think you can see that there’s a world of difference between that, and what I describe above.
Furthermore, it’s obvious that anyone, of any gender, can enjoy sucking cock. Even submissively. But I think there’s something special about the submissive male cocksucker.
So let’s discuss the “male” part, shall W/e?
Or at least make O/ur way around to discussing it.
Let’s talk about empathy first.
The Empathy of the Submissive Male Cocksucker
Let’s get something straight: no one eats pussy better than a lady.
Don’t get Me wrong, I’ve enjoyed superlative head from men. I enjoy head more from a man. It makes sense; I’m more attracted to men, and arousal has a lot to do with attraction.
That said, the only time I’ve popped My eyes open, looked down, and exclaimed, “How the fuck are you doing that?” was when another woman was eating Me out.
I’ve never had to show another woman where My clit is. I’ve never had to say to a woman, “not so much pressure”, “faster”, “just the tip of your tongue right there” or “watch your teeth”. A woman doesn’t need Me to tell her that until I’m really wet and excited, direct stimulation with the clitoral hood pulled back is too much. Or that there are different parts to the clit at all, for that matter.
Not to mention no scruff burns. *giggle*
A woman can sense the minute changes in the delicate skin of My flower. She can tune in to the stages of My arousal, and seems to “know” things without being told, more predictably than men do, in My experience.
It stands to reason that the same thing holds true between men as far as cocksucking is concerned.
It’s a matter, I’ve decided, of empathy. When you have the same anatomy, you simply understand on an intuitive level what feels best, when, and how.
That said, I find there’s a unique erotic tension, an explosive chemistry, between men. I think it’s down to the subversion of elements of male culture, which is a completely different world than that of women.
Perhaps more than you might have given thought to before.
Let’s explore.
The “male” in submissive male cocksucker
Despite what I’ve said about empathy, I think intuition is largely a female’s purview. W/e all have O/ur evolutionary advantages and disadvantages, and I believe that women lean on intuition more than men do. This, contrasted with the brute strength and confrontational, competitive instincts of the prototypical male.
I’ve expanded on this idea via My bio on Suck Patrol, and consequently been tickled by how many men mention on the phone how much the essay resonated with them.
I don’t mean to say that men don’t have intuition. Rather, I think they’re socialized to rely more on those other traits. Perhaps less than in generations past, but it’s hard to overcome 160,000 years of biology and conditioning.
So, speaking of those confrontational, competitive instincts, what happens when an Alpha male wins, not necessarily because he’s bested another man in a fair contest, but because the other man preemptively submits to him? What are the psychological mechanisms at play?
The appearance of helplessness and weakness has long been another weapon in the arsenal of womankind. It often ignites the instinct to protect in the male of the species. And while the softness and vulnerability of the female may be desirable to most males, it’s also expected. There’s nothing special about the submission of a woman.
Males, on the other hand, tend to hide their own vulnerability, in order to protect their standing in light of the expectations of male culture. Therefore, when one man (the situational beta male, if you will) basically admits, without conflict, that he is the inferior to another, I think the one to whom superiority is conceded must feel even more powerful. His inferior so clearly acknowledges his disadvantage that it’s not even worth a contest.
Wow, right?
Let’s continue!
Male Submission is a Prize!
What more direct concession is there to the superiority of one male from another than getting down on his knees and offering the victor sexual satisfaction with his mouth? Perhaps only the offer of anal sex.
However, the sense of victory I imagine a dominant male feels when another lays his own masculine standing at the victor’s feet is not uncomplicated. I believe the feeling of triumph must be laced with a certain amount of scorn. In the primitive remnants of the male brain, submission equals weakness. And weakness deserves to be mocked. Maybe even humiliated and punished.
In a modern, sexual context, I think that scorn, and therefore, the impulse to humiliate and punish, gets translated into electrifying, predatory erotic energy:
“You wanna be a shameless, cocksucking faggot? Here, then. Suck this dick!”
Further, the willful surrender of one man to another is subversive, and that which is subversive has always been fuel for excitement, erotic or otherwise.
The result?
A top receiving head from a submissive male cocksucker can feel free to be aggressive, controlling, and selfish. The subtext is that the cocksucker deserves it. Deserves to be used, and not always carefully.
So what’s the point of explaining all of that? It’s this:
I believe the submissive male cocksucker understands all of the above on a subconscious level.
I further believe it’s part of his own overall arousal.
Add to that the aforementioned erotic and anatomical empathy, and in My view, no better head can be given to a man.
How did I do?
Well, cocksuckers? What do you think?
I know there are more of you out there, reading and lurking, than those in My acquaintance who are anticipating this post. Don’t be shy! Own your oral cocklust, and share what you think in the comments!
Heck, you don’t even have to be a submissive male cocksucker–any cocksucker can probably surmise whether or not this rings true!
Of course, I’m a chronic overthinker, so there’s always the chance that’s the case here, too. I can hear some good-natured contrarian now, chiming in with “Mistress Rachel, men are just horny. Some of them like sucking cock. Others like being sucked. Some like both. For some, any hole will do when they’re horny. It’s no more complicated than that.”
And maybe you’re right! Heck, share that, too, if that’s your opinion.
But, I think it’s clear that I disagree. 😉 I think the mind and motivations of the submissive male cocksucker go deep.
And those depths are extremely hot for contemplation!
I hope if nothing else, you agree with that.
Until next time,
xx
Goddess Rachel, Fly on the Wall while you suck cock!
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Thank you, Mistress Rachel. I have some reactions but I need to let it soak in a while before those reactions become comments. This is very good. I think I would go further into what the submissive male is thinking and what he wants. It is not just a subconscious awareness of the dynamic in play. Let me think about what you have said before I say more.
Sounds good, Samantha! Thank you for reading and commenting!
Good morning Mistress Rachel; this is Sissy Slut Samantha. Thank you for writing about the mindset and motivations of the submissive male cocksucker. Your audio “The Neighborhood Cocksucker” really did, in fact, make me think a lot about why I so much desire to be a perfectly submissive oral fucktoy for alpha males. And thinking about it kept me in a very high state of arousal 24/7. There is so much there. I struggle with where to start.
First, I love to suck cock. The spectrum on one end is sucking dick at a glory hole. Very little visual, verbal, or direct personal interaction, but I love taking that anonymous cock in my mouth and making it cum. The horny man’s load is my reward and I enjoy it. Moving more toward the center of the spectrum is the usual blowjob in the porn theater. A man is stroking his dick as he watches porn. I offer to suck it, maybe like a Jack-off buddy would, and he lets me. I get on my knees between his legs and suck his dick. He enjoys his service and the porn and cums in my mouth. I always swallow. Even though I offer more in the way of kissing, licking, and nursing on his dick, he stands up, dresses himself, says “thanks”, and leaves. There is submission, particularly in my mind, but it’s not “the main thing.”
Moving down the spectrum and involving more submission, is sucking cock for a woman. I’ve done this many times with many different mistresses. You are correct that a main motivation and source of excitement in these situations is obedience. Often, a mistresses instruction to suck cock for her will come with a requirement of feminization; turning you into a sissy cocksucker, which changes the D/s dynamic a little. Often, the man my mistress directs me to suck is not necessarily the totally alpha male found on the far side of this submission spectrum. Regardless, it is all thrilling to me and I will suck cock all day for a mistress like that.
Finally, there is faggot make submission to the totally alpha male. He is superior in every way, particularly including his dick, and I am inferior. I am submitting to him as a male who has acknowledged and become a total faggot, not as a sissy looking to be treated like a girl, and not because my mistress told me to suck his dick. I deserve his scorn and I know that scorn comes with humiliation and punishment in the form of rough handling. Giving him my face to fuck submits my identity to his sexual lust and breeding domination. He can have whatever he wants. His selfishness is to be expected and is thrilling when it comes. Most alpha’s I have sucked are very happy with themselves when they cum down my throat or all over my face, exulting in their evolutionary triumph. If they say anything at all, it is to utter insults like “faggot” or “slut” as they walk out.
More later.
Wooooow, Samantha! You really dug in! I can already see where I missed some nuance, that one can be a submissive male cocksucker in more than one way. I think I got caught up in the scenario that arouses Me most, where there’s a more classic D/s dynamic in play. Sometimes a submissive cocksucker looks more like a service sucker (like at a gloryhole), and sometimes a submissive cocksucker is a glorified fleshlight.
Mistress Rachel, I meant to specify that I offer my comments as coming from a committed submissive male cocksucker with every hope that you can use them to evaluate and illuminate on the mindset and motivations of all cocksuckers like me.
Focusing on what I want from the alpha, as strange as that sounds, it is that he asserts himself forcefully and perhaps even rudely. Using verbal aggression is good. I love it. Using physical sexual aggression is essential. Taking what he wants is the essence of it. He must FUCK me, not just get a blowjob. The true alphas I have serviced get a grip on my head, either by my hair or by holding the back of my head with their big hands or muscular forearms, and then stroke their cock into my mouth and throat with full and powerful thrusts of their hips. The “wall” treatment favored by your boyfriend Adam is a perfect manifestation of dominance and sexual triumph. When he cums in my mouth, a true alpha thrusts his dick all the way down my throat, delivering his cum directly to my stomach.
After he’s done, there is no romance or gentleness. Recently, I made the mistake of trying to kiss an alpha’s dick after his orgasm without being instructed to do so. He pushed me away and clearly thought about slapping me. I deserved it. And if he had slapped me, I would have relished it.
Your reference to an alpha’s scorn is correct. And it does and should lead to humiliation and even punishment. I love that. He should be selfish and take whatever and everything he wants from me. Particularly including any dignity or self respect that might be lingering in some dark corner of my faggot mind.
Oh yes, when you told Me about the Alpha who shoved you back when you tried to kiss his cock, it definitely appealed to the humiliatrix in Me! But that whole event started out as the perfect Alpha/beta scenario, just by the way he put his dick in your face and ordered you to suck it, without a word having passed between you before.
He spotted you alright, Samantha!
I’ve long fantasized that Alpha males can spot a beta male by instinct. I don’t know if it’s true or not, but the idea of it arouses Me, as you know!
Thank you so much for taking all this time to add perspective!
You mention humiliation, which is a significant part of the titillation associated with many kinks. With alphas and submissive male cocksuckers, humiliation is almost the entire relationship. I have already mentioned how important it is to the cocksucker that the alpha be verbally abusive. Even when an alpha knows that my name is Sissy Slut Samantha, he is entitled and should always call me “faggot” or “slut” or “cocksucker”. Another form of humiliation is the threat of exposure not just as a cocksucker but as a submissive male FAGGOT cocksucker. But the alpha male to whom I have surrendered my masculinity by inviting him (really begging him) to use my face for his sexual pleasure is perfectly entitled to exult in his complete conquest by “bragging” to his alpha buddies about how he uses “this total faggot” to get his rocks off or his ass licked on a regular basis. If he were to see me somewhere like the gym, I would fully expect him to call me over to him with “hey faggot, come over here”. If other alphas were around him talking about pussy, I would be surprised if he did not tell the other alphas about his dominating use of me as his faggot and require me to confirm his statements. Exposing my submission to him is part and parcel of his status and his triumph. That exposure, of course, then leads to other alphas asserting themselves over me and the number of dominant men I serve only grows. Humiliation through exposure is an alpha’s right and a submissive male cocksucker like me knows it and should expect it.
Well Samantha! I have to thank you again for taking the time you did to offer full discourse on the parts of the submissive male cocksucker mentality I might have missed, as well as sharing your own personal mindset, and that you look for from the Alphas you serve. Or rather, surrender yourself to!
This last comment was a bit more personal to you, rather than something I think can describe submissive male cocksuckers as a collective, but it was certainly titillating, and informative! I’m sure My readers will agree!
What a wonderful post! You of course know without hesitation that this topic pushes my buttons in the most direct way.
I do love scenarios where the partners you have chosen for us to play with (well, for me to be used and exploited by 😉) have the inherent characteristics of being aggressive, controlling, and selfish. When I read all three of those explicit adjectives, paired with a dominant man who wants to exploit me, and is larger than I am – in every way – I immediately become stiff and leak in a Pavlovian manner.
I would also say that I enjoy a characteristic that is maybe one step further in the direction of “aggressive and selfish” – I crave a level of sadism in their intent, just as I do with your attention to me. I love the idea that you specifically select playmates that, beyond using me as a cumslut faggot for their own pleasure, actually relish my discomfort and pain. You both take care and extra time when you find an act, or position, or word(s), or level of aggression that I struggle with. I don’t get safewords or limits, just abuse at or sometimes beyond the level I can take. “The discomfort is the point.”
Because I fucking deserve it, and I crave it. I need it to fully materialize what a fucking whore I am, and we both know it. 🖤
Oh MY! I think this is the most effusive you’ve ever been in a comment on a blog post of Mine! It always amuses Me how brief and cryptic you are otherwise, knowing what a perverted slut you are in O/ur roleplays!
You’re absolutely right, though–you do enjoy an element of sadism, and perhaps other cocksuckers do as well! I hope they’ll chime in and share their thoughts if so!
(Speaking of which, My readers, the lack of safe words only occurs with the character, IN the roleplay. I always insist on and respect safe words in real-time play. 😉)
Thank you so much for reading, fuckslut, and I’m glad you enjoyed the post and endorse the message!
Oh, my apologies; I am so used to our dynamic that I forgot to caveat that statement regarding safewords. It is a kink of mine that, when we play (fantasy), I don’t get to have safewords, and my limits are explicitly ignored. Drives me fucking wild.
I am, in all other aspects, a strong supporter of enthusiastic consent. xx
Oh I know that, sweetie! I just wanted to make sure My other readers didn’t get confused! Thanks!
Mistress Rachel, this is Sissy Slut Samantha.
Sitting Bull’s excellent comment made me think about the huge difference between the pegging I get with every mistress I session with in person and the fucking I got from the first real alpha who took my ass pussy. My mistresses always started with smaller dildos and worked up to bigger ones. Pegging me definitely established their dominance over me, but it seemed based on the fact that they could make me do something humiliating to please them. The alpha was just fucking me because he wanted to fuck and I was his fucktoy. He may have been a little slow getting his dick started into me, but in a couple of strokes he was pounding his full length of manmeat into my pussy and my response to that really did not matter much. I would not call the difference in aggression “sadism” but it was definitely different and the momentary pain I felt was not a concern for my top. So I agree fully with Sitting Bull, and, to be clear, as a submissive male cocksucker, that’s what I want my alpha to do. Fuck me!
I would think that what you pay in pain, you get back in terms of the psychological orgasm effect. Would you say that’s true, Samantha?
Wow I absolutely love this piece. The psychological aspect of submitting to another Male as a Beta Male for me is just as if not more sexually arousing as the physical one. As a Beta Male when I submit to a Man I lose myself and thoughts where his pleasure is the most important thing in my life everything else drifts away losing myself in his masculinity. At times it’s hard to put it into words what his presence looks and words do to me.
Stephanie! Thank you for reading and offering your perspective! You ARE one of those cocksuckers who seems to truly lose themselves in bringing the Alpha to pleasure. And incidentally, I know just what you mean when you refer to what I call a sort of psychological orgasm you get from giving pleasure, and just from enjoying all that is lovely about a masculine, aggressive, big-dicked male!
Mistress Rachel, this is Sissy Slut Samantha. Identifying with Stephanie, the psychology she speaks of is “subspace” to me. Once that last alpha who topped me thrust his dick down my throat 3 or 4 times, I was in subspace and he could fuck my throat just like the sweetest pussy he had ever fucked for as long as he wanted and I would have given it to him and really enjoyed it, particularly psychologically. I loved Stephanie’s comment. What she described is the joy of being a cocksucker for me.
You can address Stephanie directly you know. 😂 S/he doesn’t bite, unless you want he/r to!
I’m sure s/he’ll appreciate your reflections! Of course, you shared this one with Me privately already, and know that I applaud your talents and devotion to superior cock!
Totally get this Samantha you lose yourself to the Man and it’s a sort of mental orgasm.
You’re right Mistress Rachel….I don’t bite……unless the person wants me to 😈
LOL! xoxo
After reading and listening to this brilliant post on submissive male cocksuckers…
I know I need to be one!!!….
I pledge to you to not only be a
Pussyfree servant to Superior women… but to get down on my knees and suck a cock this year!
Although it won’t be up to me where or when he finishes… I do hope for an explosive facial at its climax!
My GOODNESS, prissydickless! You’ve truly been converted, haven’t you? I can’t want to hear about the developments!
So glad you enjoyed the post!
Miss Rachel, I will also write a few words to express my gratitude for your inspiring article. I’m sorry, it’s hard for me to write long comments because I have to use a translator instead and I’m typing on my mobile phone, I apologize in advance for typos.
I really like how you discuss the subject in detail and overall I like what you write.
Only this topic is very unfamiliar to me. Let’s just say I can’t imagine doing this to another man. I have only ever been attracted to women and not men in the slightest.
But the strange thing is that when I listen to a feminist guided meditation in my ears, for example, and the lady says I’m going to suck the other man’s cock, it turns me on, just the feeling of humiliation… I don’t know what to think, such ambivalence. It’s often said that fantasies don’t match reality, but I don’t really know… Maybe time will tell.
Audio is very nice and sensual and erotic. I love it!
Thank you!
I’m glad you enjoyed the post, even if your tastes don’t exactly align, Casandra!
I think a submissive male cocksucker as I discuss him here is different than a coerced bi cocksucker. A coerced bi cocksucker is more akin to a slave as described in the post. Maybe a cross between a slave and a submissive male cocksucker, where only who they are submissive to changes.
The audio you refer to seems to encourage you to give in to the desires of the Mistress, to suck cock for Her, while a submissive male cocksucker in this context does it from his own craving and desire. Both are kinks I’ve facilitated and enjoy, but they aren’t the same. And since I believe so strongly in safe, sane, consensual play, I would never try to convince someone to do something they have no interest in. Even in coerced situations, the underlying theory is that on some level the submissive DOES want to do what they are being coerced to do, but need to be pushed.
Then again, W/e continue to grow in O/ur kinks and tastes, so perhaps you will find yourself curious enough, of your own accord, about sucking cock to want to do it for your own reasons. If not, there’s nothing at all wrong with that.
Thank you for your reply. I’m sure you’re right. It’s wise and sensible not to go beyond our comfort zone, however, walking on the edge of it is probably part of living a fulfilled life.
I like the charge with the idea that my Mistress is forcing me to go to the very boundaries, otherwise I probably wouldn’t have been convinced if it was my thing or not, and that’s true in general. Life begins at the edge of the comfort zone…
Anyway, I understand that you wrote about those who love it. At least it makes me think.
Have a nice day!
Fantastic blog post, Ms. Rachel. It really speaks to me and apparently to a few of your other admirers. I definitely agree with your detailed description of the “submissive male cocksucker”. I understand the difference between “slave” (which I am not) and a “submissive” (which I am) who aims to please the alpha males who honour me with the privilege of sucking their cocks and pleasing their every needs. I never ask and I don’t expect any reciprocation from the alpha males who I serve and please. This is much different than when I’m with gay men, who I sometimes have hot steamy sex with. With those men, we are equals and are pleasuring each other with hot man-to-man sex but with an alpha I know my role and I understand that it is the alpha’s needs I am to serve. I am his shameless submissive beta faggot cocksucker — AND I LOVE IT !!!!
The only thing I take issue with your post is a minor one. You say that the submissive male cocksucker understands the points you made “on a subconscious level”. I don’t know about the other readers (the other subs) but for me it’s not “subconscious” — I am definitely conscious and fully aware of what I am, what I am doing with the alphas, and why I am serving his every sexual need. Picky point, I know, but I just wanted to state that in my mind I am fully aware and fully accepting of my submissive nature.
I love all your posts, Ms Rachel, and I can’t wait until we have another call. As you know, I bought your latest audio “Neighborhood cocksucker” and I definitely relate to that situation.
Until then, I remain your loyal sissy cocksucking faggot,
Hugs & kisses,
cdCindy XOXOXOXOXOX
Hello, cdCindy!
Thank you so much for taking the time to read the blog post, and leave such a substantive, thoughtful comment! I’m so glad you feel the post rings true, “conscious/subconscious” sticking point notwithstanding.
However, I would rebut that while a submissive male cocksucker might know their place and purpose with an Alpha male, and be aware of their desire to please, I’m not sure all could put into words the subversion of the expectations of male culture, the punishment that results and that they welcome and expect because of it. They know, but I expect some might not know how to describe it. I don’t think as many have given as much contemplation to their lusts as you have!
What do you think?
I also want to thank you for bringing up an important point, which is, the difference between regular gay sex and what I describe. Even if the same act(s) are taking place, I don’t know that the psychological undercurrents I describe are a factor. Then, I’d think that it’s just like any other couple having sex. I.E., it’s not the acts or gender, but the atmosphere and mindset of the participants that decides.
Would you agree?
cdCindy, this is Sissy Slut Samantha. I have admired your status, activities, and mindset for some time. I fully agree with your observation about how conscious the submissive male cocksucker is of the psychological elements of the submissive role. That awareness brings so much with it – I WANT the alpha to be aggressive and selfish. I WANT him to be verbally abusive and to humiliate me in any way that pleases him. I am totally submitted in every sexual way to a man like that. I know it and I want it.
Thanks for commenting. I would love to hear more about your cross dressing lifestyle and the positions of sexual service to which it leads. In that area, in particular, you are my hero.
My last comment was in response to Ms Rachel’s reply to my initial comment (just in case there’s any confusion). This comment here is in response to Sissy Slut Samantha.
Thank you for the kind words but in all humility I am nowhere near along the sissy slut road than you. I admire your openness with your sexuality, something I have been struggling with for a long time.
I definitely agree that it really turns me on when the alpha is aggressive, verbally abusive, and humiliates me as he pleases. I find that the natural tension or apprehension which someone in our position might feel when an alpha acts that way makes it even more of a turn-on because we give in to the submission and let ourselves enjoy it. Making the conscious decision to let the alpha act the way he does and not stop him makes me hard and wanting to please him even more. It turns me on to know that I am pleasing my alpha man and giving myself to him, fully and completely.
Sissy Slut Samantha – I enjoy reading your comments and knowing that there are other sissy submissives who feel the same way I do.
Hugs & kisses,
cdCindy
Thanks for your reply to my comment. I am glad to be part of the ongoing discussion of male submissiveness.
On your first point, I do agree that some submissive males may not fully realize or fully understand what is going on when they submit to an alpha. Some may even regret doing so when they finish (not me, but some might feel that way).
On your 2nd point, I do agree that regular gay sex is like any other couple, albeit with both participants being of the same gender (and with no danger of one of them becoming pregnant LOL). FYI — I have actually been having more “regular gay” sex lately than hook-ups with alpha males. You know from our calls that I do have a couple of regular alphas who I serve and submit to from time to time but I’ve also come to enjoy regular gay sex with some other men who I get together with on a regular basis. It definitely is very much different from being a submissive to an alpha. I enjoy both types of sex — it definitely provides some variety in my secret sissy gay life.
Thank you for your reply, Cindy!
I remember you recounting to Me the various interludes you’ve had with men as a man, and I think they always seem rather sweet, no matter how naughty and dirty they are! I can definitely see why and how you differentiate between the two!
Goddess Rachel, thanks for commenting so quickly. You are such an attentive LDW mistress.
In response to your last comment — yes, I find when I’m with a “regular man” instead of an alpha that it is “sweet” and wonderful, emotional, and a very loving experience. I’ve told you how I developed “feelings” for 2 different men over the past 4 years and how I feel when I’m with them. It has made me realize that I’m not just a “faggot” but I’m also “gay” (maybe not 100% but almost). You know from our calls that I’ve struggled with this secret life and I so very much appreciate your continuing understanding of my situation.
If I haven’t said it enough times — you are so very very wonderful (not to mention beautiful and sexy too). Thank you so very much for all you have done for me.
Hugs & kisses,
cdCindy XOXOXOX
Awww, Cindy.
Thank you!
Yes, I do feel I understand you, or at least I try to, and I’m so glad you feel My understanding has helped you come to a greater sense of acceptance of who you are!
Dear Ms R, I fully admit to a degree of ignorance and I am often wrong, but this strikes me as the first ever post in which You have described Yourself as taking part in same-sex play. Of course the EE Mistresses, unsurprisingly, range across the full sexual spectrum, but I had always gathered that You are entirely heterosexual in feelings and actions.
Oh, I allude to it in other spaces, and I’d be surprised if this was the first blog post in which I mentioned it, but you could be right!
I like to joke that I’m “situationally bisexual”. My attraction to women is transient and unpredictable. I think I make it a point to stress that I’m mostly a heterosexual adrophile so that sissies don’t get confused and think that I’m a good choice for lesbian-esque sessions with them, because I’m not. I’m also not particularly interested in facilitating fantasies where I’m making love to a subbie’s wife for whatever reason.
In short, My attraction to women is not reliable, and is mostly part of My personal life, not My shenanigans here. 😉
That said, I’m always good for a recommendation for a Mistress who loves the ladies here, there, and everywhere!
WOW. I can’t believe how well you hit on these points of the primitive male alpha and beta roles. I’m hetero, and have no problem with my cock being slightly smaller than average (4 inches hard), but all my life I’ve been made to feel dominated by men who are well hung in saunas, gym lockers, pools, most of Europe, and other times where my smaller penis size gets noticed.
I have been approached on a few occasions by men that seemed to be trying to hit on me, and on two recent occasions, became dominant in their behavior towards me. One walked into the restroom while I was exposed and pulled it his much larger cock, smiled, and said “so we meet again”. The immediate feeling of submission came over me along with embarrassment and vulnerability as I quickly covered up. The most recent time was a nude bathhouse in Europe where a very good looking man with a much larger penis kept talking of me, even walking into the shower area with me, and the difference between our cock sizes was very obvious. Despite not being gay/bi, I experienced the kind of submissive feelings you described.
Does one man having a smaller cock than the other automatically make him the sub/beta as you described?
GREAT blog.
Well hello there, Elbert! I don’t think I’ve ever had the pleasure of seeing you in My comments section before! Have you just been reading and lurking all this time, or are you new to My blog? I’m grateful for the comment, and if you’re new to Me, I hope you stick around!
Anyway, on to your question about cock size, Alphas, betas, submission, et cetera. I think what makes for the submissive posture of the male cocksucker I describe in the post is the action, the willing and desirous action, of servicing another man. So, in the situations you describe, just your mere presence, with your small cock, isn’t enough to render you submissive. But, in the sexual marketplace, and therefore, the archaic but still valid world of masculinity, I think it does render you inferior. So yes, a beta male, if you will.
That said, you ARE submissive to men with large cocks whether you suck them or not, because you FEEL submissive in their presence. You recognize the truth about the sexual marketplace and the dominance of big dick energy and big dicks themselves, and therefore recognize your place in comparison!
Does that make sense?
Thanks again for stopping by!
Hi Ms. Rachel,
I am new to your blog, and I was amazed by how you hit on the points I’ve been experiencing my whole life. I am het, and I have a 4-inch penis, which I feel is perhaps the smaller side of average, but not tiny. I have, however, been made to feel submissive in the presence of so many cocks that are larger than mine. This includes many Saunas nude with my friends and their wives, being walked in on in hotel shower, nude spas in Europe, women looking at my crotch in my swimsuit and giggling (even making comments), and a number of times where men who were much more well endowed appeared to be making advances on me, and even got somewhat aggressive. I’ve had a few instances where hung athletes were making obvious stares at my penis and smirking. I have often been surprised by how much that makes me hard and have to go and jack off. Once a man I had been in the gym shower with pointed me out to his gf, said “he has a small dick!” And she looked and giggled. Instead of being confrontational I suddenly got hard and had to turn around before it started poking out.
However, I believe we are all equal, and I’ve never been able to admit that bigger cocks are dominant in general, but I understand that perspective. I have an ex gf who once let me know her ex bf had a 10-inch cock, and she thought mine would be bigger as I’m taller. I met him, and it was impossible not to notice it stuffed down the leg of his jeans. Again, the frustration and weird arousal that gave me was confusing and powerful.
Fascinating!
Well, once again, welcome to My blog, and I hope you find many more items that resonate with you!
Feel free to get in touch for a session if you’d like to share more of your reflections voice to voice, and perhaps get My opinion on your contention that 4″ is average. *giggle*
Thanks! And to clarify, I said “small side of average” 🙂
Yes, you did. 😂
Well, I could say it’s a “large small” or a “smaller end of average”? It’s a great looking cock, it’s gotten bigger as I’ve lost some weight, but it still tops out at 4”.
*giggle*
You make sucking cock sound so appealing. I’ve sucked a couple in my time but only in my young experimental years. I’ve long enjoy the fantasy of being forced to suck penis by a dominant female but gradually I’ve become to realise that I love dicks and would love to suck a cock simply for the joy of pleasuring another man and having him cum in my mouth or on my face. It would even hotter to be watched and instructed by a dominant mistress like yourself though.
I have long had the fantasy of being a slave to a Mistress who keeps me in her dungeon along with other slaves. She teaches me to love cock and the taste of semen so that she can make me her fluffer when a slave needs encouragement getting hard for her use. She starts by getting me addicted to eating my own spunk and then gradually introduces me to cocksucking. Before long, I become cock obsessed and more than happy to drop to my knees and suck on demand. I’m often chastised for being too enthusiastic and making them jizz before she’s been able to have her fun with their dicks. I’m made to wear their semen on my face until it dries as a punishment.
That sounds like a great premise for an audio! Glad you liked the post, and felt inspired by it, Andrew!
Well now, what is going on here? Are you Rachel, and you Sissy Slut Samantha Phd’s in psychology? You and others here are so erudite and seemingly academic. What is going on here, have I stumbled into a nest of academics? It IS interesting but I just want to know.
And then SS Samantha, it seems obvious to me that you need to become a real cross dresser. If you live alone, I command you to get at least one petticoat and wear only that at all times that you are alone in your place. Feel all of your emotions (especially shame) while wearing that petticoat. You must come to associate erotic feelings with your petticoat. Then/and call Rachel and focus mostly on feminine clothing while you jack off. I say these things for your own good, I do believe you need to become a real crossdresser
Hello, Evelyn! Well, I suppose as We here at LDW bill Ourselves as purveyors of “Intelligent Phone Sex”, you’re bound to find discourse that attempts to rise to that distinction. 🙂 And, We happily tend to attract playmates of that caliber as well!
Thanks for noticing!
With regard to Sissy Slut Samantha, I’ll let her answer for herself as to whether or not she wants to take your advice. She might find a free assignment fun!
Any reflections on the subject matter of the blog post?
Either way, thanks for taking the time to add to the conversation!
Context : I’ve never sucked a cock, I have been fucked but I’ve never sucked a cock. Also I am very interested in sucking my 1st cock and hopefully many more after that. More context is that I have played sports all of my life. When we played baseball, basketball, or football in the neighborhood we didn’t have referees or umpires, or even full teams. We all had to learn to negotiate. i.e. safe or out? out of bounds or in? And we had to learn to not kill each other. Negotiating was often ; red faced, hands in fists and then who was going to back down first and then how to make the one who backed down feel ok so that we could continue the game. And we continued the game because competition was really fun. So, if someone on the other team just gave up, it was no fun and we’d just walk away. I bring all of this up because when you say that an alpha exults in his so called victory, I disagree. I think that if a submissive just gave up to me, I would be bored and feel like walking away. I would not scorn him, I would feel a bunch of nothingness. Where’s the competition and emotional wrestling? Okay, it’s possible that I don’t have enough experience in the cock sucking milieu, but “it seems to me” that if someone just gives up, it’s game over, walk away. I can see where an unkind jerk would take advantage of a submissive who wants to submit and be used. But I can’t stand unkind jerks, I don’t want anything to do with them.
Further more, ” the brute strength and confrontational, competitive instincts of the prototypical male” has served Hollywood well. But in the real & regular world, the guys who try to be brutes end up very very lonely. Nobody actually wants to be friends with them. [ don’t get me started on the false narrative of Alpha males and betas, it’s fun to play with but it’s not valid]. And Rachel, remember ; it is all bluster and posing, and most guys can recognize that shit right away. Oh well, enuf of me. ..Rachel your blogs are so fun and interesting!
Wow, you’re skating quite close to the line of kink shaming.
I think perhaps the source of your disconnect is the fact that it sounds like you’re neither an Alpha nor a beta, but rather, a sigma. Which is fine, but it also explains why you wouldn’t enjoy the dynamic that occurs between Alphas and betas. Because you’re neither. However, because you’re neither, I’m not surprised that you don’t understand the little secret beneath their dynamic–that both of them need each other, and experience a type of satisfaction in that dynamic that they can’t get any other way.
If you don’t understand it, or it doesn’t resonate with you, that’s okay! But it’s not really valid to characterize them negatively because it’s not for you. Just walk on by!
Also, I think you’re confusing “brute strength” with “brute”, and the world of BDSM sex play with, well, everything else. And since you admittedly have little experience with the former, and I have loads of it, the rest of your comment comes off as more than a little condescending.
I’m glad you enjoy reading My blogs, but should you return, please try to come to My comments sections with a bit more humility. And maybe also investigate what about these concepts has you so triggered. Don’t take it out on those who experience and enjoy the things you pooh-pooh.
I’m so sorry, I do apologize. I didn’t mean to put anyone down. I was just bringing my experience to bear (in a hopefully detached way) on the topic at hand. You are right, I do Not understand this dynamic. My general feeling is that if two people find a way to have sexual happiness, then I think that is good. I am learning. I just looked up sigma male and I do believe that you are right about me. I didn’t know I was a sigma. Gawd you people are smart! I Did put someone down : I quote me here : “But I can’t stand unkind jerks”. Mea Culpa and thank You for teaching me. I wanna go on and on about how stupid I am, but instead I give all of you a heartfelt “Sorry”
Thank you! It takes quite a bit of courage and humility to own when you’ve been wrong, and I respect it! I hope this blog, and the rest of the Empire can continue to be a positive part of your learning experience!
I sure hope to continue with this blog and the rest of the Empire. If you won’t give up on me, I won’t give up on you. Wow, I’m a sigma. And I am learning
We won’t give up on you!
Hi Ms Rachel,
I know I have many fantasies about being a submissive male cocksucker that really turn me on, and they all involve a woman being there to witness my submission. I’m actually a straight man, i’m not attracted to men and I have no desire to kiss a man, but when I’m looking at porn and I see a hard cock thats really big , it just makes me feel so submissive. In part because I have a little one myself. But just seeing a big hard cock makes me want to submit to it. I want to get down on my knees and suck it and lick those big balls. The fantasy of being on my knees and sucking a real man’s cock while a woman watches my submission just turns me on so much. But of course, the ultimate submissive act would be to be bent over and fucked by that big cock while a woman watches. Can a woman ever look at a man the same again after she’s seen him sucking cock or being fucked ?
Well speaking only for Myself, I would have already made up My mind about you before the actual act or acts. *giggle* Getting to watch would only solidify things! And I mean that with all the fondness in the world! Where would I be without My beta cocksuckers and bend-over betas? ::smooch::