Hello, Horny Readers! Until I entered the kink world, I thought the circle jerk was an urban legend. Males don’t really get together for the sole purpose of mutual masturbation, I thought. Sure, there are times when guys are obligated to share close quarters, like a dorm room, military barracks or prison cell, and circumstances require that they mutually and silently agree, to studiously ignore each other as they take care of their inevitable personal needs.
But guys don’t have actual “jerk off buds”, do they? They don’t actually seek out other guys to jack off with?
And if they do, that means they’re gay or bi, right? At least bi-curious?
This was My thinking. But, as I say, I’ve learned a lot since delving into the kink world. And even more since I became a phone sex femdomme.
What I’ve learned is that jerk off buds are definitely a thing. And that it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with sexual orientation.
Not necessarily.
Let’s start there.
Can jerk off buds be “straight”?
From My research and experience, most guys who like to jerk off with other guys describe themselves as “mostly straight”.
Take note of the word “mostly”. I think it’s an acknowledgement of the grey area inherent in this practice, and a nod to the idea that sexuality is a spectrum rather than a binary.
For many, jerking off in view of or with the acknowledgement of another guy is the most contact with a cock other than their own that they want. In the age of the Internet, they need never even meet their jerk off buds in person. They avail themselves of platforms like Skype, Snapchat, Kik, and Chaturbate to share the stroking experience with another.
What do they watch or look at?
You may think they look at each other’s cocks, and many do. Meatgazing is definitely part of the practice (see My Femdom Glossary if you’re unfamiliar with the term). But even that’s not necessarily true across the board. Sometimes it’s enough to enjoy kinky chat, either by text, or voice only, about what they’re watching. About what makes them hard, what makes them cum. And although it’s a given that they’re both masturbating during the conversation, it may not even be acknowledged past arranging the assignation.
Some may jerk off to gay or bi porn, but protest that they would never want anything to physically do with a cock in the flesh. Some might only want to see cock in their viewing material if it’s straight porn they’re sharing or viewing.
Tgirls, however, are also very popular among the jerk off buds I’ve surveyed. That makes perfect sense. It’s in keeping with the grey area inherent in the practice. Not that correlation equals causation. It’s just an interesting thing to contemplate.
But mostly, from what I’ve gathered, they’re as likely to share images of natal women and/or straight porn that arouses them as anything else.
What’s the allure of stroking with another guy?
From what I’ve been able to gather, it seems to be an empathetic thing. The male mind has been prepped since the inception of hard core porn to identify with the erection and ejaculation of another man. Granted, some men only watch girl-girl porn because the only cock they want involved in their porn consumption is their own.
But the vast majority of men watch straight porn. The term “money shot” comes from the fact that porn that doesn’t show the male character in a given scene actually ejaculating doesn’t sell as well.
It’s not hard to extrapolate that this conditioning could come to include, for some men, the desire for the validation of their own desires, tastes, and fantasies by sharing them with someone who can relate to how hard it makes them, how good it feels to stroke, and how hard the right visual, aural, and manual stimulus can make them cum. A few of the men I’ve spoken to about it even exchange stroking techniques, taking the empathetic experience to another level.
Do you have jerk off buds?
I may be pretty well-versed in cocks and cock control, but I don’t pretend to be an expert in all or even most aspects of the male sexual experience and psyche. This post, therefore, can hardly be an exhaustive examination of this type of mutual masturbation. I’m always looking for new takes on any subject. So, you tell Me:
- Have you ever masturbated in the same room as another man? I mean, when both of you knew you were both masturbating.
- Have you ever purposely arranged to masturbate with another guy, without ever intending to cross swords or “help each other out” or anything else?
- What’s the allure for you?
- Do you identify as straight or “mostly straight”?
Please feel free to weigh in in the comments, or give Me a call if you’d rather share in private!
xoxo
Goddess Rachel, An Always Inquiring (and dirty) mind!
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P.S.: Ever heard of babecock? One of My playmates who supplements his private time with jerk off buds of his own told Me about it. Learn more by pressing play below!
Wow Ms Rachel, always love your hot posts, this one as well couple stories from when i was younger, there was this older guy a neighbor, he was kinda like a bully type, but he was always taking his meaty cock out, and getting us weaker guys to jerk him off etc, looking back now it was hot as hell, once there was about 4 guys at the local garage up my street, he was there and an older guy who owned the garage, and another guy about my age we were sitting in the office and the guy had playboys hanging around etc so it was like a hornfest lol anyway the bully guy, takes his cock out, and started jerking it etc putting on a show for us, and he had us take turns jerking on his cock, so hot thinking back now !! as i recall we jerked him a little, but he always finished the job with thick gobs of white cum, wow !! ty for the post xoxos
Hi there viola! Thank you for reading, and for chiming in! I had to edit your post a little bit, which I hope you don’t mind, because as it was it could be mistaken for a situation that falls outside of the type of thing I like to talk or hear about, if you know what I mean. Everyone in My sex life, fantasy or otherwise, needs to be 18 or older.
Anyway, I’m glad the post took you on a pleasant trip down memory lane!
Oh Ms Rachel, thanks so much for the edit, I totally understand, the way I worded things was awkward but , it was totally cool, everything was totally 18 plus, it was so hot,I wish it could happen again the same way !!! so hot !! thanks for being a sissies friend !! xoxos
Glad to hear it, and My pleasure! xoxo
Sweet Sissy Kisses to You Ms Rachel , You Are so Special to us, Thanks Beautiful , xoxos !!
xoxo
Babecock is a go-to pr0n image for me. From reading forum responses on Tumblr and Reddit, I see three different audiences.
1) viewers who enjoy the simple juxtaposition of a woman and a penis, either appealing to the same instinct as wanting a woman to be penetrated, or because it sexualizes an otherwise uncorrupted glamour image,
2) viewers who imagine the woman desiring or interacting with the penis,
3) viewers who like to be confronted with their desire for both the woman and the penis, especially when the woman is unattainable, whereas penises are abundant and always seeking warm orifices. Personally I fall entirely into category 3, enjoying the fantasy of rejection by women leading me inexorably into homosexuality. My tiny cock gets hard typing this.
I hope the babecock symposium finds this monograph informative.
Intriguing feedback, dicklet! Of course, I especially enjoyed your confession regarding where you fall, and the effect the confession has on you!
In my experience, it’s sort of a bonding thing. I think part of it is cementing a friendship with an experience that you share but keep secret. There’s a group of three of us who have been the best of friends for years. There’s nothing we can’t tell each other and we would always have each other’s backs, no matter what. I don’t know if being jerk off buddies is a cause of that or if it’s the other way around. I guess I fit into the category of “mostly straight.” For me, I have to admit there is a bit of a thrill in watching and being watched, and I wouldn’t be surprised if my buddies feel that way. But that’s definitely not something we talk about! One thing about it that was present when we started was a spirit of competition. Like who could be first to ejaculate, who could shoot the furthest. It cracks me up to think about it now.
Wow Andrew! Intriguing! Thanks for sharing your experience!
It definitely is a bonding thing. As a teenage I had a couple experiences jerking with another friend, and really liked just being nude with friends in the locker room showers and saunas. I thought I might be gay/bi because as a young adult I really missed having those types of bros. Also I missed the moments and conversations when we’d shower naked at the gym or go to hangout in the sauna. I eventually experimented with other guys on Grindr and about a dozen or so hookups realized that I’m not even into having sex with other guys. Yeah, it felt amazing sometimes, but I was feeling more unfulfilled than ever before. I realized I was craving having those close bonds to my bros. It didn’t matter if we jerked off or were naked. Those things could help the bonding, but it wasn’t necessary if we already well bonded. I really do want to have bros that I can jerk with, shower in the gym with, or just go to the sauna with. But I think the main reason that all those things appeal to me is not the activity itself, but rather what result out of them: deep close bonds with guys who 100% got ur back no matter what.
Wow, what a meaningful and wonderful comment! Thanks for sharing, Jon! I Myself am aroused and intrigued by all sorts of expressions of male to male intimacy, so I can understand the appeal of what you’re trying to describe! Have you by chance ever heard of g0ys? That’s gays, but with a zero where the “a” would usually be. I haven’t read up on them in years, but back when I did, I found their take fascinating, and maybe you will as well!
Thanks for reading, and taking the time to comment!