Hello, Horny Readers! Did you know that some men don’t use lube when they masturbate? Until the last decade or so, I didn’t! Maybe it’s down to My “focus on the femme” that lead Me to assume, or to neglect even wondering beyond assumption. I guess I figured that whether you’re gay or straight, your stroking techniques are meant to simulate the sensations of sex. If you’re a guy who likes to stick his dick in an ass, I’d assume you’d want lube to smooth the way. And of course, if you’re a guy who likes to stick his dick in pussy, well, a well-prepped pussy makes its own lube.
Why some men’s stroking techniques don’t include lube
Some men like the friction. That’s the simplest and most common explanation I’ve heard at the beginning of a guided masturbation, tease and denial, or tease and delay session. Some men have just never used it.
As I have a vested interest in stroking techniques, I’ve assumed that men who like friction must, for the most part, use a lighter, more grazing stroke than the seize-and-destroy chicken choking popular with others.
Some men just never gave it much thought either way. They’ll use it if they have it on hand, and don’t think about it if not.
And they don’t tend to realize that it doesn’t have to be a bottle labeled “lube”, purchased at a sex toy store, to do the trick. I’ve heard, “I like to use it, but I don’t have any.” I can almost hear the light bulb go off in their head when I say, “Well you have lotion somewhere in your house, don’t you? And if not, you’ve got a kitchen, so that means you have some kind of oil.”
Seriously, if you have it, and you’ve never tried it, try coconut oil.
Spit doesn’t count. I mean, it’ll do in a pinch, but it dries up too fast, and the re-application distracts from the flow, at least when the stroking techniques are coming from Me.
More lubeless reasons!
Some men make their own lube. In the form of pre-cum, that is. I’ve had that exchange a number of times.
“Do you use lube when you stroke?”
“No.”
“Do you drip lots of pre-cum?”
“Yes.”
I always laugh and say, well, then you do use lube. It’s just that you make your own!
Sissies tend to use masturbation methods more akin to that of a girl, as it should be. It feels funny to talk about what sissies do in the context of the stroking techniques of men, because they aren’t men really, are they? But since most of them have a driver’s license that says otherwise, I’ll include them.
I guess I could have mentioned them in the friction section, because many sissies I play with rely on the sensation of a pair of silky panties rubbing against their clitty to masturbate. I love it when a gurl uses a vibrating wand. And lots of My sissies are pillow humpers. Not to mention that some have converted over to the majority of their pleasure coming from their ass pussy rather than their clitty anyway.
(By the way, someone out there bought a Doxy based on My recommendation recently, but I don’t know who! If you’re reading this, how do you like it?)
A few men out there just don’t like the mess. I know. You might be thinking, as I did when I first heard it, “Well you’re going to end up making a mess anyway if I let you cum.” But I’ve talked to a few boys who are so slime-averse that they masturbate with a condom on so that even that mess is contained. I suppose I think that’s pretty ingenious. Easy cleanup!
When and Why I prefer that a stroke boy use lube
Unless he dislikes it enough that it distracts from his focus in obedience, that is.
Well, it’s because I consider all cocks of a certain size to be eligible for dildo training, and the sensation they need to learn to endure should mimic pussy as much as possible. That means tight, warm, and wet.
Even cocks that are not eligible for dildo status are more fun to tease when they are enjoying the only pussy they should ever get, if any: hand pussy. Or in some cases, finger pussy, as obviously some little dicklets don’t need more than their thumb and index finger to stimulate.
Don’t worry–it’s not that I’ll ever turn you away if you prefer not to use lube, especially if you’re a panty boi, sissy, pillow humper, or chastity slave. But My stroking techniques are meant to simulate pussy, is the point, and they simply work better with a little slip and slide.
So, what’s your preference? Do you use lube? Is it lotion, oil, or the traditional? No lube for you? Why not? Feel free to weigh in in the comments!
xoxo
Miss Rachel, Masturbatrix
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P.S.: Speaking of dildo training, why not listen in to the little audio below where I talk briefly about why dildo training is important, if a boy qualifies for it.
I have always adored the sensations of silky nighties against my soft skin while stroking and never would think to lube.
You know Robyn, after all this time I didn’t know that about you! <3
I am a light friction guy, and rely on precum to lubricate the head. I guess being non circumcised helps in this respect, as it keeps the natural lube contained where it does its best work, and I then have a different friction sensation for the shaft.
Yes, uncut cocks do have that advantage, Peter! And they’re awfully fun to play with, too–so many things Mistress can have them do with the foreskin! I imagine the contrast between the slippery head and the shaft provides a nice contrast! Is your stroke on the shaft more of a grazing, light stroke as well?
Yes, as light as possible (taking a leaf from golfing technique, never grip the shaft too hard). Holding it up near the head also allows the thumb to gently touch the head on each ‘down’ stroke, as the foreskin is pulled back. Oh my, I’ve said too much now, I’m getting a little excited………
Hahahaha!! That sounds hot, Peter! Thanks for weighing in! Maybe I’ll try some of your technique the next time I have a guided masturbation session with a strokeboy who still has his foreskin!
Just one further small point on this topic. I recently discovered cock and ball bondage as an extra kink to my masturbation – and foreskin on not, this definitely requires lube !
Ah, tying up those balls. I’m always surprised to learn how many boys have never experienced that before! What is it about cock and ball bondage that you feel makes lube extra necessary? Share with the class! *giggle*
Dear Mistress Rachel.
I am also uncut, and I have a long “fleshy” foreskin. Yes! There is a lot that can be done to stimulate the foreskin. One technique is to retract that skin all the way back. Then I use a lubricant to rub that skin in circular motions, especially where the veins bulge out. 🙂 Stimulating the foreskin, without even touching the glans allows me to do edging.
I also have e genital piercing, where I have a ring through my frenulum. I use lubricant for the frenulum, which allows me to masturbate by sliding that ring through that hole in the frenulum. This is another masturbation technique to stimulate the penis and bring myself to the edge of orgasm many times.
By the way, I usually take about 2 to 3 hour long sessions on the weekends just for doing masturbation exercises. Using spice oil lubricants helps maintain the sensitivity and prevent chafing.
Thank you for this post about using lubrication for masturbation. Masturbation and complete orgasm denial are the 2 important components of my sexuality.
Thank you for sharing your masturbation techniques with the readers, Weeping_Weenie! Hopefully there are some useful tips for all the strokers and gooners out there!
Well maybe I am doing it wrong, but the bondage makes the skin on the cock tight, so that the foreskin can no longer move, this making it similar to a cut cock I guess. In which case the ‘natural’ lube is no longer enough to get a smooth stroke
Ah, gotcha. Well, as long as what you’re doing feels good, and your balls or cock don’t get cold to the touch and/or change to a blue-ish color (that means loss of circulation and bonds that are too tight), you’re doing it right!