Hello, Horny Readers! Here’s a question: Do you ever puzzle over how to please your Mistress Rachel?
Don’t worry, it’s a common conundrum!
I meet new playmates regularly. I also continue to enjoy many long standing relationships. But no matter the tenure of O/ur time together, many of you still wonder how you can make Me happy.
Whether new to Distance Domination, or quite experienced, it’s not unusual for a prospective playmate to know little more when W/e connect than that they want to be held sway by the power of My erotic voice and creativity.
I ask at the beginning of most sessions, “What would you like to experience in O/ur time together?”
More often than you might think, the reply is, “Just to please you”.
Don’t get Me wrong, this is an excellent impulse! But the truth is, it takes just a little bit more than excellent impulse to achieve that goal.
In this post, I intend to be specific about a couple of ways you can maximize the chances that at the end of O/ur session, you will be fulfilled, and so will I!
Let’s start by making sure you know what it means to please your Mistress, at least in My book. It’s often confused with something else.
Pleasing your Mistress versus spoiling your Mistress
Keep in mind that pleasing your Mistress is a different prospect than spoiling your Mistress. Spoiling Me is about extras. Tasks and gestures to be taken outside of sessions and without My direction.
Pleasing Me involves what you can do before, during, and after a session (almost like there are stages of submission) to do your part in ensuring that I will be satisfied in it.
See the difference?
Let Me put it another way.
Spoiling Me involves a surprise, something unexpected. Pleasing Me inherently involves My expectations. Things I anticipate you having in place when I receive you.
Like what, you may ask?
Fair question. Perhaps a good way to tackle it in general is to explain “why” in tandem with “what”.
Submit Through Contemplation and Preparation!
First, the why.
Answer? Because I’m contemplating you, and preparing for you.
Even if W/e’ve never spoken before!
When you do the same for Me, you are submitting to Me before the first hello. Contemplation and preparation both show respect. And in the D/s dynamic, W/e’re both entitled to it.
Don’t you agree?
Well, I mean, aside from you humiliation addicts. *wink*
Now then, what do I want you to contemplate?
When you come to Me with the stated purpose of pleasing Me, believe it or not, you might think you’re telling Me everything I need to know.
I’m sorry to say, it tells Me very little.
I mean, imagine: you’re a job applicant. Rather than a resume that details your education and experience, you simply show up with an eager look, and the statement that you need a job and will work hard.
Do you think you would be hired? Probably not.
On the other hand, if you come to your interview with the above as a jumping-off point, followed by concrete examples of how you can back that up, your chances improve drastically!
For what it’s worth, I’ll give you a little insight into how I proceed when a subbie comes to Me with the right attitude and nothing else: I throw different kinks at you until something sticks, like a piece of spaghetti against a wall to test for doneness.
You might say to yourself, “*shrug* Good enough for Me!”
But, My submissive friends, that’s not how I like to do things. I like to interrogate you, but only when there’s something specific you’re trying to keep Me from finding out. Playing the guessing game can be sexy, but not without any clues.
So, honor Me by developing some clues.
“Well how do I do that?”
I’ll tell you.
Don’t get Me wrong; I’m not saying I need you to come to Me with your phone sex fantasy scenario fully formed. I love it when that happens, but I acknowledge that you come to Me to take you on a Femdom magic carpet ride. And I delight in doing so.
On the other hand, there are things you can think about, and present Me with, that will let Me know essentials for the journey. For example:
- Are you turned on by real-time play? Roleplay? Storytelling?
- Are you really only interested in conversation around or about kink, but not really looking to play at all?
- Are you interested in conversation, but not necessarily about sex or kink?
(As to the latter, yes, some of you do connect with Me just to talk! About kink, and not about kink! So don’t hesitate there if that sounds like you!)
All of those options are available to you. But you won’t know how to ask for them if you don’t contemplate them and ask questions before session time. If you need My help discerning what those mean, I’m more than willing to help via a quick E-mail exchange.
Specifics are even better!
Please your Mistress by knowing your kinks.
I know that the world of kink can seem so vast, especially for the newbie, that you may feel intimidated by it all. You know that a dominant woman turns you on, but not much more than that.
Or maybe you know what you want, but not how to describe it. Even delving into online exploration can be daunting for the newbie.
I have compassion for your predicament, but I’m thrilled when it’s clear that you’ve tried!
You don’t have to have a detailed dossier, just a general idea.
So, how do you formulate this general idea?
Well, start with something simple, something that may seem obvious. What should I assume you’ll be doing during O/ur session (notice I said assume)?
Masturbating, right? So, start there.
Will Masturbation be part of O/ur session (meaning yours, of course)?
You could answer in any of the following ways:
- Yes! Enthusiastically!
- Yes, but only if Mistress allows it.
- Yes, but not My penis/clitty.
- Maybe, but only as an afterthought.
Just that simple question and its possible answers tell Me a lot, give Me a direction! And if you want to give Me more, consider this question:
How would you like Mistress Rachel to interact with your jacking off?
- As something cute, something to be teased about in a friendly way
- As something She allows begrudgingly
- As something that makes Her angry
- As something that turns Her on
- As something done for Her benefit, but not necessarily Her arousal
Or, a combination of the above! As long as you know which specific components apply.
That’s not so hard, is it?
Now let’s wrap things up.
You’ve done the legwork that will get you well down the road to please your Mistress Rachel. If you contemplated those two questions, and their possible answers, and were prepared to provide those to Me when you call, I would have a good sense of just what kind of toy for Mistress you could be!
It’s really that simple.
You want that, too, don’t you?
I know you do. I want you to be successful, achieving what W/e both desire. And I hope that this post has been at least a little bit helpful in showing you where to begin.
Of course there are other tools available to you, like My pre-session questionnaire, but even that can be a challenge to complete if you haven’t asked yourself basic questions like the above.
Perhaps consider that the goal. Take a look at that questionnaire, and if you have trouble filling things out because you don’t know how to answer, do some investigation until you can, hmmm?
At the other end of your discernment, there I will be, waiting to be pleased, and ready to make your hottest submissive distance domination fantasies a reality!
Until next time,
Goddess Rachel, Encouraging you to please your Mistress, always!
P.S.: You’ll notice that there’s no audio version of this post, as I usually include. I’m a bit under the weather as I’m finishing up, and I’m just sort of taking it easy.