When Mistress Rachel suggested self-bondage as a topic, I jumped on it. I mean, I had done self-bondage myself (see below) and get to see guys & girls bind themselves (and body parts!) often enough, but once I started writing and researching, goodness, I saw really how much material there is about self-bondage out there. Therefore, as you read through here, please see it as an outline of an enormous 1200-page novel. Read here, but then, as you explore on your own, please read articles and blog posts, watch YouTube tutorials, ask questions of the Internet gurus of bondage and, if you are able to, visit a local BDSM Dungeon and get pointers that will not only keep you safe, but also totally get you off.
Let’s play!
Safety First!
Before I begin, safety must be mentioned because, quite literally, your life can depend on it. Scissors and your cell phone are your first lines of safety when doing Self-Bondage. Always keep them within arms reach! (I could tell you about the subbie whose scissors were just out of reach and he had to call 911 for his release… but we’ll just let you use your imagination for what kind of Humiliation Scene that became!)
When it comes to the keys to release your locks, a wide variety of methods are available. I will mention a couple below. But whatever way you choose to seal-then-release your keys, make sure they will be within reach.
Novice Self-Bondage Play
When I first climbed onto the Internet, I quickly found an Internet Dom (I was submissive at that time). As our relationship developed, much of it over the phone (this was before everyone had cam), he began sending me all sorts of BDSM toys and implements. A blindfold, Peerless handcuffs, a ball gag, a leather body harness (that had D-rings and O-rings on it for latching) and then ropes. Initially he told me it was for our future visit (which I wrote about here), but with all of these goodies just sitting there staring at me, I began to explore.
Of course I wasn’t the only one to allow curiosity to nudge me towards binding myself. My sweet friend jemmie here at LDW shared some of her early self-bondage experiences.
“I especially liked stories about predicament bondage. I liked the intricate ways they went about releasing a key so they could unlock themselves hour later. Anything from scarves, rope, tape, steel manacles, leather cuffs, all seem to work for me. I’m not very experienced with rope bondage, but I have some cuffs and shackles that I’ve used on myself in various configurations. I’ve also cuffed myself to the headboard of the bed and slept with a wrist cuffed to the chain between the ankle shackles, which may not have been the smartest idea I ever had, but it was fun at the time. I’ve done a few ties with rope.”
Amazing how creative we can be, isn’t it?
Read Part 2 SOON on Mistress Daphne’s Blog.
Ms. Rachel, what an interesting post. I have callers who just love, love, love this! You are so right as far as safety first, which is always a concern. I, myself have never done it, but certainly love to inflict it. Your post covers all the bases and is a good read for callers interested in this. awesome!
Ms. Rachel, what an interesting post! I, like you, have callers who just love this fetish. I enjoy watching them, and like you, ALWAYS stress safety. This is a good post for anyone curious about self bondage because you cover all the bases. awesome!
I’m grateful to Miss Daphne for having written it and allowed Me to share it! Thanks for stopping by, Miss Meredith!
Safety is important. Don’t want to end up on an episode of “Sex Sent me to the ER” ????
LOL!